Much is said about this topic. Lots has been heard by me too. Given it quite a bit of thought and would like to say my piece. I am a physic guy so I believe totally on conservation. Take and receive, give and receive, emission and absorption, release and received is all part of the way the world operate.How and who and when is of cause decided too, whether by divine intervention or by the human mortal hand, it is left to individual self philosophy.
Just that there are a few points which I feel further into this rule of life.
One, to be able to give , one must have receive. To have received, someone has to have given. The line goes on. Who to receive and who to have given, is Divine's decision (to the religious) or fate to the others.
To the first point thanks should be given to God, and to those who have given. A little bit into the extreme which is the reality of things, someone has sacrifice something to give others so when the receiver say thanks, it is good to remember that too.When we are able to give, appreciate that there is an up line and say grace for them.In other words, if someone do not go to church, it could be because they play a role to allow you to do so. If you could donate, someone played a part such that you can have the means to do so. If you could love, a loving being some where has taught you to do so. And the list goes on.
Like I say, to those who are religious, it is believed that God has planned it and you say thanks to Him for dong so. But I do feel that it doesn't make the others any lesser mortal than you because they have played their roles too. You may not agree with me but I do feel that the bottom line is; do not be arrogant.Just because you feel you practise more religious rituals and have the ability to give, think a bit further, Someone else played a part too. Most probably the very person whom you feel is not so great as you.
Secondly, when we say 'give' we always take it to means good deeds. What about wrong doings.What when we hurt others, spread rumours, slander personality or just bad thoughts? Is is still better to be able to give than to receive? In this instance, when you give you definitely feel nicer (otherwise you wouldn't have done so, would you?) What about the receiver? Religious members will tell you to have fate and there is a reason for that to have happened. To others less conversant with terms like faith, they say it is fate and just accept it that life is never fair and equal. The faster you accept either one of the philosophy, the faster you will feel better and learn to go on with life.To the people who lost lives and material in the floods, is it fate, is it God's lesson to them? Are they to just accept it and go on with life? Reminds me of the story I receive sometime ago. Do they sit on the rooftop and wait for intervention to save you or do you start to use all means for survival?
One of these days when my opinion change or have more solid answers, I will come back and blog about it again. In the meantime, Have a blessed Christmas, Year end rest and may we start 2008 positive.To all those who has been positive in my life, my sincere thanks. If I did not shown it, I still mean it and may God bless you all.
Tuesday, December 18, 2007
Friday, December 7, 2007
A week twas
One busy week. Monday was UH appointment day. I had an instinct and it came true. Meet up a old friend that I was trying to contact the last 4 months. Had a good chat Hope we could pick up from where we left nearly 2 decades ago. But I can see that it will take an effort. But it is nice to meet up with good friends with just plain friendship and totally nothing else.OH the innocent bygone days where friends are just friends . where we just care and give, never expecting any returns. Where give and take is a natural way.
Back to PS, she too has retired and has a good simple life without school for the last 10 years. Back to UH doctor, I still maintain that they are much better than GH.So much more fatherly and caring. E says that all Burmese doctors are like that (seems that his lecturers are naturally fatherly) Whatever the reasons, it was good.
Tuesday was washing day since helper was here. Wednesday was tuition day and as usual the kids were good.(but then,I never had any bad kids! Guess that is why I enjoyed my teaching). Had a good afternoon with 3 other P K HEMs for tea.Enjoyable and pleasant. Thank you ST for having us. The sandwiches was great and I love the way you decorate the house.
Come Thursday I need to give A some time . Decided to take her for her hair cut and guess what; it has to rain from 9 am to 6 pm.Never mind we still have Friday morning before going to Taylor's for a talk. As if Someone heard my plans, it started raining at 9 and it still haven't stop.
In the meantime I tried cooking with the wok after a 5(?) years recess. I won't go into details but I think I need to do more cooking to get back to the hang of it! Bet you A will asked if I ever had the hang of it in the first place. Anyway decided to go spaghetti bolognise today and avoid the wok.
Yeah before I forget, A also registered for driving at SDC. Third time going thro the routine of helping them to change from hell drivers to decent drivers not giving daddy a heart attack. Third time training too for daddy to allow someone else behind the wheel while he is in the car. For both of us third and hopefully the last time. No, A, E and Au, I am not talking over when YOUR children come of age! : ). You may enjoy them yourselves.
This weekend too will be registering little girl for pre U in Subang. Time pass so fast. but I am not complaining. I am enjoying myself
Back to PS, she too has retired and has a good simple life without school for the last 10 years. Back to UH doctor, I still maintain that they are much better than GH.So much more fatherly and caring. E says that all Burmese doctors are like that (seems that his lecturers are naturally fatherly) Whatever the reasons, it was good.
Tuesday was washing day since helper was here. Wednesday was tuition day and as usual the kids were good.(but then,I never had any bad kids! Guess that is why I enjoyed my teaching). Had a good afternoon with 3 other P K HEMs for tea.Enjoyable and pleasant. Thank you ST for having us. The sandwiches was great and I love the way you decorate the house.
Come Thursday I need to give A some time . Decided to take her for her hair cut and guess what; it has to rain from 9 am to 6 pm.Never mind we still have Friday morning before going to Taylor's for a talk. As if Someone heard my plans, it started raining at 9 and it still haven't stop.
In the meantime I tried cooking with the wok after a 5(?) years recess. I won't go into details but I think I need to do more cooking to get back to the hang of it! Bet you A will asked if I ever had the hang of it in the first place. Anyway decided to go spaghetti bolognise today and avoid the wok.
Yeah before I forget, A also registered for driving at SDC. Third time going thro the routine of helping them to change from hell drivers to decent drivers not giving daddy a heart attack. Third time training too for daddy to allow someone else behind the wheel while he is in the car. For both of us third and hopefully the last time. No, A, E and Au, I am not talking over when YOUR children come of age! : ). You may enjoy them yourselves.
This weekend too will be registering little girl for pre U in Subang. Time pass so fast. but I am not complaining. I am enjoying myself
a little story
I got to change my habit. I need to open up my blog first before anything else. Practically everyday I started off wanting to write. By the time I go thro’ the sites I read, the climate changed!
Well today I will tell a story.
Once upon a time, there was a little boy. He loves nature. One day daddy decided to take him camping. Daddy made the decision on the spot without consulting or preparing little boy. Off they went and guess what; boy got traumatize by the trip. Because of that, he wasn’t even sure if he loves nature anymore.
Everyone helped and talked to boy and boy feels OK. He puts away his nature collection and decided to look at it only when he is ready. He tries .He is not angry with the father and neither does he react negatively towards camping trips. He just still does not want to go on another trip.
He discovers that he still loves nature and all that it represent. He knows too that going camping is a good way to get near nature. But every time he feels he is ready to try another trip, daddy reminds him of the last trip. He knew he has to face up to whatever that happens on that camping trip.He wish he knew why daddy always reminds him of what happened just as he wants to try another camp.
Lately, he feels that with the reminder, he still would want to try it out. Now daddy says yes but he (daddy) decided that he should go on a tougher camp. Little boy then decides that’s it. He is not going to any camp this holiday. Rougher or otherwise.
I wonder why daddy still did what he did. Someone says that he is trying to tell the son that he is beyond the worry and the negative feelings towards camp. But does the story need to go on and on. Should the boy just have blind faith about the father’s decision or should he just leave things to fate and accept that daddy is just like that?
Well today I will tell a story.
Once upon a time, there was a little boy. He loves nature. One day daddy decided to take him camping. Daddy made the decision on the spot without consulting or preparing little boy. Off they went and guess what; boy got traumatize by the trip. Because of that, he wasn’t even sure if he loves nature anymore.
Everyone helped and talked to boy and boy feels OK. He puts away his nature collection and decided to look at it only when he is ready. He tries .He is not angry with the father and neither does he react negatively towards camping trips. He just still does not want to go on another trip.
He discovers that he still loves nature and all that it represent. He knows too that going camping is a good way to get near nature. But every time he feels he is ready to try another trip, daddy reminds him of the last trip. He knew he has to face up to whatever that happens on that camping trip.He wish he knew why daddy always reminds him of what happened just as he wants to try another camp.
Lately, he feels that with the reminder, he still would want to try it out. Now daddy says yes but he (daddy) decided that he should go on a tougher camp. Little boy then decides that’s it. He is not going to any camp this holiday. Rougher or otherwise.
I wonder why daddy still did what he did. Someone says that he is trying to tell the son that he is beyond the worry and the negative feelings towards camp. But does the story need to go on and on. Should the boy just have blind faith about the father’s decision or should he just leave things to fate and accept that daddy is just like that?
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
teachers
As I wrote the last blog, the roles of teachers keep popping into my mind that as it has done so many many times before but I have never got down to putting it in words. Let's see if I could put it all down in one blog.
As I said in the last blog, I fully believe that teachers have a very important role to play in a child's life. Please differentiate between lecturers and teachers. I believe they have different roles. Lecturers research and dispense knowledge.
Teachers are not only educators. You are trained professionally to nurture children and have the special skill to do so. Teaching is not merely a job nor a duty.For that we have the computer and Internet to dispense all the information we ever need and robots to perform all the duties require.
Teachers need to have the children's interest at heart. I felt so happy when I see my children's teachers who cares for them beyond the 7 to 1 hours. There is a BM tutor who never think twice to go beyond the normal 2 hours tuition and prepare the children for the exam as no other teachers I have seen. The kids love her and want to go to her. The minute the paper is over, she is still there to take an interest in their performance. She may be a tuition teacher but I believe she did beyond her role. Cikgu Z, God bless you. There are also teachers who are willing to sit with them and answer their questions as soon as they mention it so that they need not waste time going through the books. Not forgetting teachers who goes thro papers after papers so that they can be best prepared but never setting a standard too high for them to achieve. Bless you all. The gesture is small but it shows you care.
And of course there also teachers who sits down and tells the kids that they have no more hope for them. Teachers who tells the children they will definitely not get an A (surprisingly when they do get one, they are the first to claim that they are the best teachers around) I always feel so sad when I hear of teachers who have only negative comments to make.Have they ever heard of the phase, 'if you have nothing good to say, don't ever say anything at all'?
To the teachers who feel that the government should not clamp down on tuition giving, where do you place yourself in the ranking of good teachers? If you are rank low, one shouldn't cause any extra damage so please keep quiet as you earn your extra RMs if you could get pupils to come to you. If you are good, have you given your best to the kids in children? As far as I know, to give my best, it took all my hours as many good teachers have claimed (especially when asked to do extra or to demand higher salary). If that is so, how did one manage to have so many hours to give tuition? Something is not right.
So what am I trying to say? What I want to say to teachers are
1. Do your best and give your best. You are in the profession not for the money. It is OK to want to earn more but not at the expense of the kids. If you feel that money is important and NO ONE should deny you that, quit and give tuition full time. You put in the hours, you deserve the rewards but not at the expense of the non paying kids in school.
2. If you have the time to give tuition please do so without condemning others. Please do not complain when society demands more from you. You have just proven that you have not given your best. There was once a bird that was buried in warm cow dung in winter. He was so happy that he sang. Out comes cat and ate him up. Be a smart bird. Keep warm and quiet. Many a time, I feel that teachers want the cake and also eat it and it saddens me. We are in a noble profession. We need to perform professionally. Do remember that who we are dealing with. Lastly if we can't help, at least try not to destroy.
I would like to declare her that the above blog is purely my feelings and is not directed at anybody in particular. If it offended anyone, my sincere apologies. It is just my reflections of the profession and my fleeting thoughts as I look around. I believe strongly in the role of teachers and seen the effect of teachers on so many kids and many a times, I feel so dishearten when I see injustice done onto the children of in the school.
As I said in the last blog, I fully believe that teachers have a very important role to play in a child's life. Please differentiate between lecturers and teachers. I believe they have different roles. Lecturers research and dispense knowledge.
Teachers are not only educators. You are trained professionally to nurture children and have the special skill to do so. Teaching is not merely a job nor a duty.For that we have the computer and Internet to dispense all the information we ever need and robots to perform all the duties require.
Teachers need to have the children's interest at heart. I felt so happy when I see my children's teachers who cares for them beyond the 7 to 1 hours. There is a BM tutor who never think twice to go beyond the normal 2 hours tuition and prepare the children for the exam as no other teachers I have seen. The kids love her and want to go to her. The minute the paper is over, she is still there to take an interest in their performance. She may be a tuition teacher but I believe she did beyond her role. Cikgu Z, God bless you. There are also teachers who are willing to sit with them and answer their questions as soon as they mention it so that they need not waste time going through the books. Not forgetting teachers who goes thro papers after papers so that they can be best prepared but never setting a standard too high for them to achieve. Bless you all. The gesture is small but it shows you care.
And of course there also teachers who sits down and tells the kids that they have no more hope for them. Teachers who tells the children they will definitely not get an A (surprisingly when they do get one, they are the first to claim that they are the best teachers around) I always feel so sad when I hear of teachers who have only negative comments to make.Have they ever heard of the phase, 'if you have nothing good to say, don't ever say anything at all'?
To the teachers who feel that the government should not clamp down on tuition giving, where do you place yourself in the ranking of good teachers? If you are rank low, one shouldn't cause any extra damage so please keep quiet as you earn your extra RMs if you could get pupils to come to you. If you are good, have you given your best to the kids in children? As far as I know, to give my best, it took all my hours as many good teachers have claimed (especially when asked to do extra or to demand higher salary). If that is so, how did one manage to have so many hours to give tuition? Something is not right.
So what am I trying to say? What I want to say to teachers are
1. Do your best and give your best. You are in the profession not for the money. It is OK to want to earn more but not at the expense of the kids. If you feel that money is important and NO ONE should deny you that, quit and give tuition full time. You put in the hours, you deserve the rewards but not at the expense of the non paying kids in school.
2. If you have the time to give tuition please do so without condemning others. Please do not complain when society demands more from you. You have just proven that you have not given your best. There was once a bird that was buried in warm cow dung in winter. He was so happy that he sang. Out comes cat and ate him up. Be a smart bird. Keep warm and quiet. Many a time, I feel that teachers want the cake and also eat it and it saddens me. We are in a noble profession. We need to perform professionally. Do remember that who we are dealing with. Lastly if we can't help, at least try not to destroy.
I would like to declare her that the above blog is purely my feelings and is not directed at anybody in particular. If it offended anyone, my sincere apologies. It is just my reflections of the profession and my fleeting thoughts as I look around. I believe strongly in the role of teachers and seen the effect of teachers on so many kids and many a times, I feel so dishearten when I see injustice done onto the children of in the school.
Monday, November 19, 2007
my little daughter
Before the two boys' go green and ask why the little daughter, this is not about the little girl. It is about the girl with the boys!.
Last week sees the beginning of SPM for the girl Au. As she enters into the exam hall, one or rather I can see the difference between boys and girls. I know I have said it many times as the capacity of a teacher and a senior assistant but this time I am saying it as a mother. As the days and years go by, one can see why a daughter can make life interesting after 2 boys. Back to SPM, I don't remember thinking about the boys' health and meals as they enter the exam period. Well it is DEFINITELY not because I love them less but because they have never got so 'excited' about it They have never told me that they were nervous. They never tell me that they can't eat and neither have they given me worried looks that can panic you if you are not prepared. I don't remember having to give extra hugs and kisses to smoother the jitters and having to make sure they get enough sleep. Sure E did requires some pushing to slow down but then he settles into it fast.I guess that is why God make me retire just before she takes her SPM. ; )
To my children, you have make my life very interesting and allows me to see a comparison between you all. I have always said that they are all different and it is never so clear until I see them grow up.Each has his or her own characteristic.
To parents who are still in the manufacturing years, don't forgo the happiness and experience of having both sons and daughters. Children are always God's greatest gift to us. How they turn out depends a lot on how we nurture them. It is an endless journey of love where one should be sensitive and ready to change course at all times. All of them are different and they respond differently at different time.To those who deal with children, you owe it to your own soul to love them and to give your best to them.Be you as a parent or a teacher, do you realise that the younger they are, the more sincere they are and the more beautiful they are.I am willing to state my point to that' if you are not prepare to love, give and nurture them, don't be involved with them. ( of course they are those who knows not and knows not they knows not. )
Children should never be a duty Last word, as parents and teachers ( if a keep referring to the profession it is because I think they are next to parents to a child) love means giving and never expecting. I spoke of a one way traffic. Please remember that.
To Au, all the best for SPM, and as I told your brothers, I would like to repeat that in life it only matters that you have done your best. It definitely do not matters what the destination may be but the journey is in your control. I will always be proud of each and every one of you. and love you all just as much. We move on in life to the sounds of the drums that we hear and each and everyone of us will definitely hear a different set of drums. (But do listen carefully cuz very often, we hear the wrong sets because we want to desperately hear what we have earlier decided upon. That is the time when we need to open up and ask others what they hear for us too)
Last week sees the beginning of SPM for the girl Au. As she enters into the exam hall, one or rather I can see the difference between boys and girls. I know I have said it many times as the capacity of a teacher and a senior assistant but this time I am saying it as a mother. As the days and years go by, one can see why a daughter can make life interesting after 2 boys. Back to SPM, I don't remember thinking about the boys' health and meals as they enter the exam period. Well it is DEFINITELY not because I love them less but because they have never got so 'excited' about it They have never told me that they were nervous. They never tell me that they can't eat and neither have they given me worried looks that can panic you if you are not prepared. I don't remember having to give extra hugs and kisses to smoother the jitters and having to make sure they get enough sleep. Sure E did requires some pushing to slow down but then he settles into it fast.I guess that is why God make me retire just before she takes her SPM. ; )
To my children, you have make my life very interesting and allows me to see a comparison between you all. I have always said that they are all different and it is never so clear until I see them grow up.Each has his or her own characteristic.
To parents who are still in the manufacturing years, don't forgo the happiness and experience of having both sons and daughters. Children are always God's greatest gift to us. How they turn out depends a lot on how we nurture them. It is an endless journey of love where one should be sensitive and ready to change course at all times. All of them are different and they respond differently at different time.To those who deal with children, you owe it to your own soul to love them and to give your best to them.Be you as a parent or a teacher, do you realise that the younger they are, the more sincere they are and the more beautiful they are.I am willing to state my point to that' if you are not prepare to love, give and nurture them, don't be involved with them. ( of course they are those who knows not and knows not they knows not. )
Children should never be a duty Last word, as parents and teachers ( if a keep referring to the profession it is because I think they are next to parents to a child) love means giving and never expecting. I spoke of a one way traffic. Please remember that.
To Au, all the best for SPM, and as I told your brothers, I would like to repeat that in life it only matters that you have done your best. It definitely do not matters what the destination may be but the journey is in your control. I will always be proud of each and every one of you. and love you all just as much. We move on in life to the sounds of the drums that we hear and each and everyone of us will definitely hear a different set of drums. (But do listen carefully cuz very often, we hear the wrong sets because we want to desperately hear what we have earlier decided upon. That is the time when we need to open up and ask others what they hear for us too)
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
half a century old part 2
birthday boy and birthday girl with a chocolate indulgence cake as requested by A since she can be with us. Tuition !
sister and 2 nieces, referring to background. In the foreground, attacking food! 
brother and family. Good to see him after his stroke a few months ago.
Next, since I shared the same birth date with my one and only sister's hubby, we normally celebrates the day together.Nieces and nephew came back from Singapore and what nicest way to celebrate other than to eat again.
This time we went to Golden dragon Restaurant in paramount to glut out.
Oh before I forget, the three kids (more one did the job, one help to hold the laptop and the other one is under immunity because SPM is just 2 days away) came up with a sweet power point presentation for my birthday. It was shown at Star village and later the aunties and uncles got to see it in the restaurant. Thanks sweethearts. OH and I better record my thanks too to my ever loving hubby for taking me out for a special lunch [ while waiting for E in the mall, ; ) ] and shopping.
half a century old
Oh my gosh, the title make it sounds like we are talking about some antique. Of course, being my naughty son, A will be more than happy to agree and, have a good laugh and add more spice to it. But I declare here and now that I have no regrets and I am happy where I am. I enjoy learning to Be 'manjaed' by the kids ( ie crossing roads and jumping over longkangs with their help and not forgetting them taking care of the luggage when we travel ; ) )
Now as we meet up, we talk about our children (we do talk about husbands but they may take offence that we normally bring them in the conversation as our drivers and someone who look after the kids when we are out together). WE share ideas about bringing up kids and lately our retirement plans. Gosh wonder if we will end up in the same old folks' home! : ) 
Well I celebrated the birthday first with a few close friends. We literally grew up together, laugh together, shared secrets and thoughts. We started off as teenagers,innocent and fun loving. we left school, found our love, got married and even went through pregbnancy at the same time.SF left for America and came back, LP travelled round the world, at least more than us and got teased lots of time in between, KW was the first to enjoy being a full time housewife, not forgetting LS who was our remisier but we turn out lousy clients to her!
Now as we meet up, we talk about our children (we do talk about husbands but they may take offence that we normally bring them in the conversation as our drivers and someone who look after the kids when we are out together). WE share ideas about bringing up kids and lately our retirement plans. Gosh wonder if we will end up in the same old folks' home! : )
5 pretty girls in Star Village as dinner is served
momentos from friend to remember the day by
hi tea before dinner
beautiful cheese cake from friends too
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
A Retiree
A week ago, niece was back from Singapore. In the course of a conversation about I am spending my time, I mentioned that I'm yet to do a few things on my list. Comment was"No time management" Well well well, you're right but the point is we retirees do not need time management. What a difference when one need not look at datelines and complete certain projects by certain time. Yeah no time management because I don't need time management. Hooray ; )
Was out for lunch with some old members of school administrators the other day. I took a full lunch while they took a drink since they had school function! Came to payment, it was 'Let me pay since you already a pensioner' That was nice. Haven't seen myself as such yet. Good idea. Ha ha ha But on a serious tone, Thank you Y K for lunch.It was a nice thought from you. Much appreciated.
Last Sunday attended a Hari Raya open house of a teacher. Former colleague, present tuition teacher of my daughter. Met up quite a few ex teachers. It was nice of them to come up and salam and say Hi. Touching moment was when a teacher served me. It was a small gesture but significant because I was served because, I as still their friend. As I told them, when I was their boss, I never knew if they were serving their boss or their friend. At least now I know for sure I am a friend. Thank God for friends.
Was out for lunch with some old members of school administrators the other day. I took a full lunch while they took a drink since they had school function! Came to payment, it was 'Let me pay since you already a pensioner' That was nice. Haven't seen myself as such yet. Good idea. Ha ha ha But on a serious tone, Thank you Y K for lunch.It was a nice thought from you. Much appreciated.
Last Sunday attended a Hari Raya open house of a teacher. Former colleague, present tuition teacher of my daughter. Met up quite a few ex teachers. It was nice of them to come up and salam and say Hi. Touching moment was when a teacher served me. It was a small gesture but significant because I was served because, I as still their friend. As I told them, when I was their boss, I never knew if they were serving their boss or their friend. At least now I know for sure I am a friend. Thank God for friends.
Friday, October 19, 2007
newsreel 2
I didn't get to finish penning down my thoughts the last time and I was called off. So this is part 2 (I didn't even had time to edit and post!!!)
5. I now have a small class of physics tuition with 5 kids. The money is negligible but it keeps my mind active so I guess it serves it's purpose.I really don't mind because the girls are fun and the group is small enough for personal attention.
6. Made my visit to UH to see DR. Tiong . He wasn't in so I had a chat with another lady doctor. Wanted to reduce medication. Got the permission. Next went down to the RUKA centre to report lost of appointment card. Without a blink of an eye, the little girl at the window took out a new card and wrote out a new card for me. Wow and I was expecting some resentment from her.(She did it all with a smile, bless her soul) Come to think of it, they are dealing with tons of retirees so I guess I shouldn't be the first to lose a or misplace a card he! he! he! No offence to all retirees. Next I went to pharmacy to ask for medication since my appointment date was delayed to December. No hassle too. Didn't take too long too. All in all a good productive trip and kudos to UH staff for efficiency and speed.
7. The next trip was to GH the next day for my gynaecology visit. Now this is a different story. First of all, when I show the clerk my pension card, I was told to give her a photostat ed copy. Now if they want a record, they jolly well take it and photostate it with their machine there and then. Otherwise, I believe the onus is on us pensioners to produce the card each time we visit them. Well, GH what do you expect. Next the nurse who took our B P and height treats every patient there as is they just got out from some kampong. Rude and unpleasant is the term. As if that is not enough the microphone to call for there patients was so soft that all have problems hearing. Never mind we strain our ears and hope for the best. A name was called, sounded like mine, waited to see if anybody went in. Nobody, good chance it was me. So off I go. Enter and put down my name card in front off this young doctor. Next his analysis, and then decided I should be transferred back to a polyclinics?!? Ok maybe it was a good decision since GH ain't exactly near. I requested for UH. I then asked if there is any test to indicate my approximate date of menopause (something to look forward to) He look into the file and ask how old am I. I said 50. 'oh! not 56 ah?' No doctor 50. 'Oh like that anytime between now to 55.' Great as if any ladies doesn't know that. I got up and sat outside waiting for my presciption and return of my card. 5 minutes, 10 minutes 15 minutes. out came a nurse and ask. Apa nama? gave my name. Aiyah salah orang lah! ??!!??
To cut the story short, that young ciku has the cheek to ask me why I went in when he called for someone else! Hey, I showed you my card. Ain't it your responsibility to check since the FILE was in YOUR hand?
Sorted out. Lesson learned. Make sure you get the right medication. Check and recheck. Before one of them young guys do a boo boo.
8. A's birthday and the family celebrated with my sis and brother in law at Korean BBQ. Good trip, good food, good company. and guess what, A paid for dinner. Well big boy mah! Can buy dinner aledi!. Thanks. 23 years old and growing up well and nice. Thanks the Lord.
latest update
9. Family had a good getaway at Avillion in PD for 3 days 2 night. The kids got a taste of karaoke. Do you know that E can sing well and he could really listen to the music and sing to a totally new song? Well if he can always sing to his patients to calm them down! ; ) Also found out the room consist of 2 groups of people with 2 types of song selection. 'Their old songs" claim the girl and our songs! OK we know we are from a different time zone!
The KL jakuns also got to play with chickens and rabbits at the pets' farm. And was capturing photos with a bullock cart. I am sure brother in law would have something to say if he was there-aiyah last time, we ride on them to school, now you all so excited seeing a bullock card. Well different time zone again : )
But the trip was good. Like I say in earlier, we plan to appreciate the time the family could spend together and we did just that for 3 days 2 nights. teasing, joking singing, and just talking.
5. I now have a small class of physics tuition with 5 kids. The money is negligible but it keeps my mind active so I guess it serves it's purpose.I really don't mind because the girls are fun and the group is small enough for personal attention.
6. Made my visit to UH to see DR. Tiong . He wasn't in so I had a chat with another lady doctor. Wanted to reduce medication. Got the permission. Next went down to the RUKA centre to report lost of appointment card. Without a blink of an eye, the little girl at the window took out a new card and wrote out a new card for me. Wow and I was expecting some resentment from her.(She did it all with a smile, bless her soul) Come to think of it, they are dealing with tons of retirees so I guess I shouldn't be the first to lose a or misplace a card he! he! he! No offence to all retirees. Next I went to pharmacy to ask for medication since my appointment date was delayed to December. No hassle too. Didn't take too long too. All in all a good productive trip and kudos to UH staff for efficiency and speed.
7. The next trip was to GH the next day for my gynaecology visit. Now this is a different story. First of all, when I show the clerk my pension card, I was told to give her a photostat ed copy. Now if they want a record, they jolly well take it and photostate it with their machine there and then. Otherwise, I believe the onus is on us pensioners to produce the card each time we visit them. Well, GH what do you expect. Next the nurse who took our B P and height treats every patient there as is they just got out from some kampong. Rude and unpleasant is the term. As if that is not enough the microphone to call for there patients was so soft that all have problems hearing. Never mind we strain our ears and hope for the best. A name was called, sounded like mine, waited to see if anybody went in. Nobody, good chance it was me. So off I go. Enter and put down my name card in front off this young doctor. Next his analysis, and then decided I should be transferred back to a polyclinics?!? Ok maybe it was a good decision since GH ain't exactly near. I requested for UH. I then asked if there is any test to indicate my approximate date of menopause (something to look forward to) He look into the file and ask how old am I. I said 50. 'oh! not 56 ah?' No doctor 50. 'Oh like that anytime between now to 55.' Great as if any ladies doesn't know that. I got up and sat outside waiting for my presciption and return of my card. 5 minutes, 10 minutes 15 minutes. out came a nurse and ask. Apa nama? gave my name. Aiyah salah orang lah! ??!!??
To cut the story short, that young ciku has the cheek to ask me why I went in when he called for someone else! Hey, I showed you my card. Ain't it your responsibility to check since the FILE was in YOUR hand?
Sorted out. Lesson learned. Make sure you get the right medication. Check and recheck. Before one of them young guys do a boo boo.
8. A's birthday and the family celebrated with my sis and brother in law at Korean BBQ. Good trip, good food, good company. and guess what, A paid for dinner. Well big boy mah! Can buy dinner aledi!. Thanks. 23 years old and growing up well and nice. Thanks the Lord.
latest update
9. Family had a good getaway at Avillion in PD for 3 days 2 night. The kids got a taste of karaoke. Do you know that E can sing well and he could really listen to the music and sing to a totally new song? Well if he can always sing to his patients to calm them down! ; ) Also found out the room consist of 2 groups of people with 2 types of song selection. 'Their old songs" claim the girl and our songs! OK we know we are from a different time zone!
The KL jakuns also got to play with chickens and rabbits at the pets' farm. And was capturing photos with a bullock cart. I am sure brother in law would have something to say if he was there-aiyah last time, we ride on them to school, now you all so excited seeing a bullock card. Well different time zone again : )
But the trip was good. Like I say in earlier, we plan to appreciate the time the family could spend together and we did just that for 3 days 2 nights. teasing, joking singing, and just talking.
Friday, October 12, 2007
newsreel 1
This is the first time I blog late in the evening. This is because the posting has been in my head for the last week or so. If I don't put it down in writing, it is going to hatch in my brain ; ).
1. Ad has his first assessment done with his boss. He did well. Top in the group. Happy for him and congrats to him. And to think that when he was in the old place, they readily took his offer to VSS. Guess this is the right place for him.
2. Finally received my correct pension amount after numerous phone calls and letters. But they still owe me the difference for the last 3 months. And they still deny knowledge that they have to deduct my housing repayments till November. So I still have to faithfully sent them direct to the housing department. Aiyah!But 1 out of 2 problems solve is still good.
3. Prayers for a friend in Sabah whose 5 years old son was detected leukemia. Now in KL for the last hope for treatment. Hasn't spoken to him because what can you say to a father who is about to lose his son. Will just say a prayer for him in the meantime.Saw a newspaper report too about a couple in Singapore who lost all 3 children at birth. Imagine the pain.I really don't know what one can say to them except a prayer. And at the same think feel blessed with our own family.
4 Hubby and me or more me since men don't really have much time to dwell in these matters, decided we should make an effort to have holidays together as much as we can.We can be joined by others but it is important that all members of the family should make time for each other without at least once a year. With that in mind,we can only choose time like public holidays because the members are so diversified. 2 working, 1 in school and 1 in uni.
dated 12.10.07
1. Ad has his first assessment done with his boss. He did well. Top in the group. Happy for him and congrats to him. And to think that when he was in the old place, they readily took his offer to VSS. Guess this is the right place for him.
2. Finally received my correct pension amount after numerous phone calls and letters. But they still owe me the difference for the last 3 months. And they still deny knowledge that they have to deduct my housing repayments till November. So I still have to faithfully sent them direct to the housing department. Aiyah!But 1 out of 2 problems solve is still good.
3. Prayers for a friend in Sabah whose 5 years old son was detected leukemia. Now in KL for the last hope for treatment. Hasn't spoken to him because what can you say to a father who is about to lose his son. Will just say a prayer for him in the meantime.Saw a newspaper report too about a couple in Singapore who lost all 3 children at birth. Imagine the pain.I really don't know what one can say to them except a prayer. And at the same think feel blessed with our own family.
4 Hubby and me or more me since men don't really have much time to dwell in these matters, decided we should make an effort to have holidays together as much as we can.We can be joined by others but it is important that all members of the family should make time for each other without at least once a year. With that in mind,we can only choose time like public holidays because the members are so diversified. 2 working, 1 in school and 1 in uni.
dated 12.10.07
Monday, September 24, 2007
another wedding dinner
Another wedding dinner! Woh I will be putting on weight soon !
But it was an interesting night. First of all sat next to Tan Chai Ho. Well he is just as human (pity it wasn't Prince William then my blog will be most different!)M and me were placed at the VIP table cuz the father in law insist M was a low peng yew (old friend). He has always had great respect and love for M . M met him when he first walk the street 30 years ago. Old man strike well with M and one visit to him and M's budget for the month was done!Well He sounds like a Godfather to me. Suddenly strike me to check next time if he has a daughter for M those days? :)
The interesting part is that, his every conversation with M sounds more like a chicken and duck talk. He speaks mandarin and because he is the president of this and this and that(all involving the Chinese community) even his Cantonese is so high flow. M on the other hand is a typical yellow banana and so far I had only see his smiling face as response! That just prove that listening is more important than talking and elderly people only needs a respectful young guy to pay genuine attention to them and you get their heart! Maybe I should pass this trick down to the two sons when they visit their prospective father-in-law. :)
On the serious side, once again it is wonderful to see M receiving such great respect from others.For a 80+ old man to feel that this 50+ young guy need to be put as a VIP and receives his personal attention. Wow that is something.Mind you, this 50+ year old is no politician nor influential in any sense.
By the way this old man karoake well, speaks well and is definitely on top of things. If I ever live up to his age, I do hope I could be just as 'young'
He too had a tai kam cheh (an old lady to oversees the entire wedding to follow all traditions). Seeing her operate makes me wonder how many more of them are still surviving in this trade.They are definitely a dying breed . No young couple will take to them at their wedding nowadays but it was refreshing and interesting to see them perform their duties.
But it was an interesting night. First of all sat next to Tan Chai Ho. Well he is just as human (pity it wasn't Prince William then my blog will be most different!)M and me were placed at the VIP table cuz the father in law insist M was a low peng yew (old friend). He has always had great respect and love for M . M met him when he first walk the street 30 years ago. Old man strike well with M and one visit to him and M's budget for the month was done!Well He sounds like a Godfather to me. Suddenly strike me to check next time if he has a daughter for M those days? :)
The interesting part is that, his every conversation with M sounds more like a chicken and duck talk. He speaks mandarin and because he is the president of this and this and that(all involving the Chinese community) even his Cantonese is so high flow. M on the other hand is a typical yellow banana and so far I had only see his smiling face as response! That just prove that listening is more important than talking and elderly people only needs a respectful young guy to pay genuine attention to them and you get their heart! Maybe I should pass this trick down to the two sons when they visit their prospective father-in-law. :)
On the serious side, once again it is wonderful to see M receiving such great respect from others.For a 80+ old man to feel that this 50+ young guy need to be put as a VIP and receives his personal attention. Wow that is something.Mind you, this 50+ year old is no politician nor influential in any sense.
By the way this old man karoake well, speaks well and is definitely on top of things. If I ever live up to his age, I do hope I could be just as 'young'
He too had a tai kam cheh (an old lady to oversees the entire wedding to follow all traditions). Seeing her operate makes me wonder how many more of them are still surviving in this trade.They are definitely a dying breed . No young couple will take to them at their wedding nowadays but it was refreshing and interesting to see them perform their duties.
Monday, September 17, 2007
my faith
As I sat in the same hotel room as I did last year at my darkest time, I ponder about myself. I realised that my faith has slowly eroded.
A year ago I was so worried that I will lose my faith cuz I knew we as emotional human's need a faith especially as we go along in life at our lowest.We too need to be grateful o Him for His blessings everyday.
Today I realised I went through my darkest days praying for His presence. To tell the truth I wasn't sure He was there. But then we don't question and I don't intend to.
All I know is that as I go along, every time I think of the events of the last year, the faith fade off a little bit. Unfortunately, so many things continuously return or happen to remind me. His doing or what?
A year ago I was so worried that I will lose my faith cuz I knew we as emotional human's need a faith especially as we go along in life at our lowest.We too need to be grateful o Him for His blessings everyday.
Today I realised I went through my darkest days praying for His presence. To tell the truth I wasn't sure He was there. But then we don't question and I don't intend to.
All I know is that as I go along, every time I think of the events of the last year, the faith fade off a little bit. Unfortunately, so many things continuously return or happen to remind me. His doing or what?
dedicated to my husband
It is funny how I always get into the mood to write when I am driving or away from the computer busy with my hands like ironing. Whenever I get to the computer I can't get away from reading the news both mainstream and otherwise, check my mails and read the blogs, Normally that will bring me to the time to go off the computer to be a mother or wife.!Conclusion, I write more on my mind than on my blog. But today's thoughts were on my mind since Saturday night.
Last Saturday was M's colleague, friend, ex-subordinate and present sub ordinate's daughter's wedding. OK I will explain. HP was with M in his ex company. He was to have retired but M with the agreement of M's boss extended his services. When M had his farewell do in Penang last year he was still with the old company. One year down the line, he was retired off and had since joined M in his present company. HP is a good friend because he has always been our perfect host when we went up to Penang for our holidays. He was also at hand to help when A went up to Penang to work.
So together with the fact that M wanted a break from work and KL, we (me and him) drove up last Saturday for the wedding. As usual, like the perfect host, he got us a room and upgraded us to a suite in the same hotel as the wedding. Side line is, the lot of former colleagues (don't forget also HP's too) were at the same hotel for their meeting. And obviously invited to the wedding too. Another note is that it was in the same hotel that M had his last meeting with them and thus his farewell 14 months ago
Come that night, I witnessed something of my husband that i have only so far heard off only.
He was waited upon and missed thoroughly by his colleagues.Each and everyone of them crowded round him and one can see how much respect, love and care they have for him. At many instances, I was embarrassed as it look as if he was the centre of attention instead of the groom or the father.
They crowded round him the minute he was there. HP bought him a whiskey especially for which of cause was shared by all. His 2 Malay secretaries/ assistant crowded round him till they were pulled away by their own boss. Anew girl insisted on meeting him after hearing so much about him. His boys were drinking with him and hugging him all night long. They teased him, jokes with him, and just enjoyed the night with him. I too got teased quite a lot cuz they know I was totally neglected by him that night and they wanted to know how I will be going home alone. They told me I have to share him with everyone! He was definitely missed and they still accord to him the same respect that they had for him when he was their boss. A colleague commented that he was much missed by his boss and the team. She told me tears were shed again and again last year when he left and by both the girls and guys.
Looking at him that night, a fleeting thought cross my mind. Did I do the right thing by not stopping him when he was deciding to leave? But knowing both of us, we have always agreed to NEVER ponder over past decisions but to look forward . Never to ponder if the past decisions were right but to improve from now on . With that I think we are never unhappy but we treasure every immediate moment that we have in front of us.
Husband dear, I salute you for the person you are and has been with all those that you meet and all that came in your path.
Last Saturday was M's colleague, friend, ex-subordinate and present sub ordinate's daughter's wedding. OK I will explain. HP was with M in his ex company. He was to have retired but M with the agreement of M's boss extended his services. When M had his farewell do in Penang last year he was still with the old company. One year down the line, he was retired off and had since joined M in his present company. HP is a good friend because he has always been our perfect host when we went up to Penang for our holidays. He was also at hand to help when A went up to Penang to work.
So together with the fact that M wanted a break from work and KL, we (me and him) drove up last Saturday for the wedding. As usual, like the perfect host, he got us a room and upgraded us to a suite in the same hotel as the wedding. Side line is, the lot of former colleagues (don't forget also HP's too) were at the same hotel for their meeting. And obviously invited to the wedding too. Another note is that it was in the same hotel that M had his last meeting with them and thus his farewell 14 months ago
Come that night, I witnessed something of my husband that i have only so far heard off only.
He was waited upon and missed thoroughly by his colleagues.Each and everyone of them crowded round him and one can see how much respect, love and care they have for him. At many instances, I was embarrassed as it look as if he was the centre of attention instead of the groom or the father.
They crowded round him the minute he was there. HP bought him a whiskey especially for which of cause was shared by all. His 2 Malay secretaries/ assistant crowded round him till they were pulled away by their own boss. Anew girl insisted on meeting him after hearing so much about him. His boys were drinking with him and hugging him all night long. They teased him, jokes with him, and just enjoyed the night with him. I too got teased quite a lot cuz they know I was totally neglected by him that night and they wanted to know how I will be going home alone. They told me I have to share him with everyone! He was definitely missed and they still accord to him the same respect that they had for him when he was their boss. A colleague commented that he was much missed by his boss and the team. She told me tears were shed again and again last year when he left and by both the girls and guys.
Looking at him that night, a fleeting thought cross my mind. Did I do the right thing by not stopping him when he was deciding to leave? But knowing both of us, we have always agreed to NEVER ponder over past decisions but to look forward . Never to ponder if the past decisions were right but to improve from now on . With that I think we are never unhappy but we treasure every immediate moment that we have in front of us.
Husband dear, I salute you for the person you are and has been with all those that you meet and all that came in your path.
Thursday, September 6, 2007
I ponder
23 years ago as I gave birth to A, I nearly lost my life. My doctor sent my husband home to prepare for my funeral while I lay in coma .As I woke up from my come of 4 hours, I wanted to say thanks to the Lord and from then on I knew I was a christian. While I was in coma, hubby prayed (he accepted Christ way before that but has never preach to me) and dedicated his wife and son to the Lord.That was the simple way I came to the Lord. Time and again I dedicated A to Him.
Way before that, I believe I was meant to returned to the Lord because of 2 incidents that I could remember. One was when I applied to UM. I knew deep down that the only uni I could go to was University Malaya and the only course I wanted was the B Sc with ed. hopefully super fresh. Reason being, I have no one to depend on financially or otherwise. I figure UM is the nearest Uni to home so I could travel everyday and save on hostel( I could never afford it anyway) So it is the only uni. Next teaching because I like it. Super fresh so that my finance will be reduced by 1 year.I was self supporting with my tuition. Sister in law came in later with the fees and other siblings were off and on at their timing nothing committed, nothing steady. All in all my only steady income was my tuition.I did not know what was the Lord and the role of Jesus Christ but I just prayed. He answered my prayer and I give thanks every time for that.
Next, as a young girl, my friend and me went to see a medium before. Supposedly very accurate. anyway we went out of curiosity. She said something(I can't remember what it was ) and I said thanks to her. At that instance, she said to remember her even when I leave the faith and join the Christian faith. So I felt I was to be His in all ways.
Since accepting Christ then, I had not been attending church because of commitments to mother-in-law but I always believe my faith is with Him alone. I give my thanks and my praise and I believe He has been with me all the way through my mothers' illness and death, and as I move along in life.
Today as I stand before my own image and self, I am a very sad Christian.I see a lot of acts commit ed by so called Christians and elders that I felt so let down. At my hours of greatest need of comfort, I felt betrayed. At a time when I feel I want to devote more time to the church (as my children grows up and as I approaches retirement). I lost my total trust in people who speaks in the name of the Lord. I had been played out, lied to, cheated and destroyed financially, and phychologically by so called Christian, senior Christians and elders of church.
I see myself as His stepchild that He has to put aside while He takes care of His own children. I feel towards Him as a stepchild feels towards a step parent. I still love Him and trust Him irregardless of what He does. I do not question Him on his actions and I still hang on to the belief that He has his own reasons for doing what He did. And I still hopes that one day He could brings me in as His very own.
There is a very fine line between having blind faith and leaving it to fate. I wonder which category I falls to. When one trust that there is a reason for every action and when one has give up trying to see a reason, one's reaction is the same. Again I wonder which am I.
Way before that, I believe I was meant to returned to the Lord because of 2 incidents that I could remember. One was when I applied to UM. I knew deep down that the only uni I could go to was University Malaya and the only course I wanted was the B Sc with ed. hopefully super fresh. Reason being, I have no one to depend on financially or otherwise. I figure UM is the nearest Uni to home so I could travel everyday and save on hostel( I could never afford it anyway) So it is the only uni. Next teaching because I like it. Super fresh so that my finance will be reduced by 1 year.I was self supporting with my tuition. Sister in law came in later with the fees and other siblings were off and on at their timing nothing committed, nothing steady. All in all my only steady income was my tuition.I did not know what was the Lord and the role of Jesus Christ but I just prayed. He answered my prayer and I give thanks every time for that.
Next, as a young girl, my friend and me went to see a medium before. Supposedly very accurate. anyway we went out of curiosity. She said something(I can't remember what it was ) and I said thanks to her. At that instance, she said to remember her even when I leave the faith and join the Christian faith. So I felt I was to be His in all ways.
Since accepting Christ then, I had not been attending church because of commitments to mother-in-law but I always believe my faith is with Him alone. I give my thanks and my praise and I believe He has been with me all the way through my mothers' illness and death, and as I move along in life.
Today as I stand before my own image and self, I am a very sad Christian.I see a lot of acts commit ed by so called Christians and elders that I felt so let down. At my hours of greatest need of comfort, I felt betrayed. At a time when I feel I want to devote more time to the church (as my children grows up and as I approaches retirement). I lost my total trust in people who speaks in the name of the Lord. I had been played out, lied to, cheated and destroyed financially, and phychologically by so called Christian, senior Christians and elders of church.
I see myself as His stepchild that He has to put aside while He takes care of His own children. I feel towards Him as a stepchild feels towards a step parent. I still love Him and trust Him irregardless of what He does. I do not question Him on his actions and I still hang on to the belief that He has his own reasons for doing what He did. And I still hopes that one day He could brings me in as His very own.
There is a very fine line between having blind faith and leaving it to fate. I wonder which category I falls to. When one trust that there is a reason for every action and when one has give up trying to see a reason, one's reaction is the same. Again I wonder which am I.
like that also can?
The housing department is definitely efficient and also not efficient.
Efficient because;-
Within a day, the officer in charge of my account got back to me, First call to confirm my number and my enquiry. Half an hour later again to give me the explanation
Inefficient because:-
She explained that in 1988, they made a wrong calculation and charge me RM2 less from then on. That is why from now on I have to pay RM14 more every month till 2013. When asked to give me the calculation, she said that they are not banks and so cannot send me the calculation!
!!!???!!!
Is this acceptable? I wonder if one can sue them!
Efficient because;-
Within a day, the officer in charge of my account got back to me, First call to confirm my number and my enquiry. Half an hour later again to give me the explanation
Inefficient because:-
She explained that in 1988, they made a wrong calculation and charge me RM2 less from then on. That is why from now on I have to pay RM14 more every month till 2013. When asked to give me the calculation, she said that they are not banks and so cannot send me the calculation!
!!!???!!!
Is this acceptable? I wonder if one can sue them!
Monday, September 3, 2007
latest update
well well well . Thank you to the nice lady at 1st floor, epf building Jalan Gasing. EPF money is in hand. So is the gratuity and golden handshake.
What next? 1st of all the pension is not adjusted to the new amount so I can't close the case yet. I wrote in to pension department to remind them. Will give them 3 weeks and hope for the best.
Next, they didn't deduct my housing loan from the gratuity for the first 2 months. So what's the problem since they didn't take away my money? Problem is the amount that they are to deduct from my subsequent pension is more than the usual amount. So I will also need to write to the housing department to ask them why and since I am at that, I should pay up the 2 months' instalments.
Lastly, I need to look into the various ways to invest the money at hand so that it can overcome the inflation rate and last me till my end of time!
By the way number one son went on a holiday cum mission trip to Chiangmai and Chiangrai. Thank God came back safely. Surprise surprise he did a sizable amount of shopping. for a guy who gets made every time you want to buy something for him, that was good. A straw pillow for grandma, a nice shirt( a little bit small though) for daddy, comforter and Indonesia(!) sarong for me, a nice elephant silk tie for E and a scarf and jade necklace for the little girl.
What next? 1st of all the pension is not adjusted to the new amount so I can't close the case yet. I wrote in to pension department to remind them. Will give them 3 weeks and hope for the best.
Next, they didn't deduct my housing loan from the gratuity for the first 2 months. So what's the problem since they didn't take away my money? Problem is the amount that they are to deduct from my subsequent pension is more than the usual amount. So I will also need to write to the housing department to ask them why and since I am at that, I should pay up the 2 months' instalments.
Lastly, I need to look into the various ways to invest the money at hand so that it can overcome the inflation rate and last me till my end of time!
By the way number one son went on a holiday cum mission trip to Chiangmai and Chiangrai. Thank God came back safely. Surprise surprise he did a sizable amount of shopping. for a guy who gets made every time you want to buy something for him, that was good. A straw pillow for grandma, a nice shirt( a little bit small though) for daddy, comforter and Indonesia(!) sarong for me, a nice elephant silk tie for E and a scarf and jade necklace for the little girl.
working again???
2 weeks since the last post. Quite a bit has happened.
Went for an interview with a private school set up by a good and caring friend who is also a soon to be retiring headmistress.The ups- School is nice , small and cosy. Population is very very small and form 4 population next year is expected to be single figure at the beginning as they are just starting upper secondary next year. Headmaster in the secondary section is a nice man, ex-headmaster.Non aggressive, slow and steady guy.I had a long chat with him and he not only interview me, he also has some advice as to how to settle my pension problems with the department. Surprisingly, he also mentioned that he too heard of my case with her and the subsequent transfer to La Salle. Spoke of Raj but doesn't seem to recall her name! Well the world ain't so big.
next spoke to the primary Headmistress cum management of the school, a Singaporean. Very approachable and nice lady. Had a half an hour conversation with her ending with an offer to teach(but not a very attractive salary and told her so) and subsequently to take over the science department.
Unfortunately apart from the salary, the hours are terribly long too. 7.30 to 4 everyday. When I discussed with the family, none were happy about it. Well, the kids were never for me working again in the first place. As for hubby, he felt strongly after the conversation that it is not a good idea.
SO that means the end of that story. I could see the school's point of view. To be teaching only 7 to 8 students, nobody could pay a salary higher than what they offered. Not forgetting they are a profit making organization. But to me it is still a total effort irregardless of the class size and the hours spend is still the same.
Conclusion- it was a good experience but that's it.
Went for an interview with a private school set up by a good and caring friend who is also a soon to be retiring headmistress.The ups- School is nice , small and cosy. Population is very very small and form 4 population next year is expected to be single figure at the beginning as they are just starting upper secondary next year. Headmaster in the secondary section is a nice man, ex-headmaster.Non aggressive, slow and steady guy.I had a long chat with him and he not only interview me, he also has some advice as to how to settle my pension problems with the department. Surprisingly, he also mentioned that he too heard of my case with her and the subsequent transfer to La Salle. Spoke of Raj but doesn't seem to recall her name! Well the world ain't so big.
next spoke to the primary Headmistress cum management of the school, a Singaporean. Very approachable and nice lady. Had a half an hour conversation with her ending with an offer to teach(but not a very attractive salary and told her so) and subsequently to take over the science department.
Unfortunately apart from the salary, the hours are terribly long too. 7.30 to 4 everyday. When I discussed with the family, none were happy about it. Well, the kids were never for me working again in the first place. As for hubby, he felt strongly after the conversation that it is not a good idea.
SO that means the end of that story. I could see the school's point of view. To be teaching only 7 to 8 students, nobody could pay a salary higher than what they offered. Not forgetting they are a profit making organization. But to me it is still a total effort irregardless of the class size and the hours spend is still the same.
Conclusion- it was a good experience but that's it.
Monday, August 20, 2007
unfinished stories
Wow; so much and also so little has happened.It is one of those days when I don't know where to start and where to proceed.
What the heck? It's my blog and I am not going for any essay competition so i will just rattle on...
Aha. Yesterday me and hubby took sis and her hubby to Ikea. It(I mean Ikea) was BIG, it was FAR. well at least to my standard! Number one son insist it is near and easy to find!Spend the whole morning shopping and I think that was the longest walk darling sister had for a long, long time :p
Come afternoon assembly time and out came 2 beautiful comfy Poang chairs and a grand office chair for my remieser! And what brought about all these? PM decided to give an adjustment to the pensions and sis decided to spoilt hubby by giving him an air-cond hall where he could sit in comfort looking at the share market and the big screen TV.Next, they need to sort of semi-seal the hall so that cool air no escape and thus they need a door. Then it wasn't a good idea and we need a curtain. Next, Ikea was having a sale..................... and I really don't know what happened!
Next, I am suppose to attend an interview at a private school this coming Friday.Now the RM5000 question? Do I want to work? Good question, no answer.E said I should ask myself if I want to go back to work. To me the more precise question is, should I work?........................... another episode of a non ending story.
Next gratuity is in the bank.Look as if I may have porridge for the next 30 years! Had lunch with a fellow retiree and she say we should invest it. Good idea but invest in what? She say UK land cuz she saw the advert in the Star. M.... a little sceptical. So far away. For all you know, one could have bought a swamp land. But then........ who knows.......
Think it is enough of unfinished stories for the time being.Need to be a good wife and go clear some files and a good mother and cook dinner!!!! Ta da....
What the heck? It's my blog and I am not going for any essay competition so i will just rattle on...
Aha. Yesterday me and hubby took sis and her hubby to Ikea. It(I mean Ikea) was BIG, it was FAR. well at least to my standard! Number one son insist it is near and easy to find!Spend the whole morning shopping and I think that was the longest walk darling sister had for a long, long time :p
Come afternoon assembly time and out came 2 beautiful comfy Poang chairs and a grand office chair for my remieser! And what brought about all these? PM decided to give an adjustment to the pensions and sis decided to spoilt hubby by giving him an air-cond hall where he could sit in comfort looking at the share market and the big screen TV.Next, they need to sort of semi-seal the hall so that cool air no escape and thus they need a door. Then it wasn't a good idea and we need a curtain. Next, Ikea was having a sale..................... and I really don't know what happened!
Next, I am suppose to attend an interview at a private school this coming Friday.Now the RM5000 question? Do I want to work? Good question, no answer.E said I should ask myself if I want to go back to work. To me the more precise question is, should I work?........................... another episode of a non ending story.
Next gratuity is in the bank.Look as if I may have porridge for the next 30 years! Had lunch with a fellow retiree and she say we should invest it. Good idea but invest in what? She say UK land cuz she saw the advert in the Star. M.... a little sceptical. So far away. For all you know, one could have bought a swamp land. But then........ who knows.......
Think it is enough of unfinished stories for the time being.Need to be a good wife and go clear some files and a good mother and cook dinner!!!! Ta da....
Monday, August 13, 2007
KWSP
The capital letters were not because it represents the fund but because I am so angry.
Early May, I filled in the necessary forms to withdraw whatever little bit of epf money I have left in the fund. (Took a bulk out when purchasing the house back in 1988) I had to make 3 trips. One to get the forms, then to be told I need a single named account (no join account) and then finally to submit them. I was told to wait for 2 months. One month gone, two months gone, retirement came and 3 months gone. That''s it. Off I go to the Jalan Gasing office to enquire.
To be told that in the month of Jun, JPA made an enquiry about my epf status (a normal procedure as I was to retire optional in July. The epf has to give clearance before my gratuity could be paid out) AND because of the enquiry, my application was canceled!!! And the chick of them never ever decide to inform me.
Soooo. this patient ex civil servant( being so understanding of the way they operate!)
1. Ask them for a clearance letter for JPA so that I could send it to JPA and thus hopefully release my gratuity!!!
2. Politely ask for the forms again so that another application could be done.
All that for that measly small amount left in the fund.
Lastly, let's hope that in 3 months time, I have good news from them
Early May, I filled in the necessary forms to withdraw whatever little bit of epf money I have left in the fund. (Took a bulk out when purchasing the house back in 1988) I had to make 3 trips. One to get the forms, then to be told I need a single named account (no join account) and then finally to submit them. I was told to wait for 2 months. One month gone, two months gone, retirement came and 3 months gone. That''s it. Off I go to the Jalan Gasing office to enquire.
To be told that in the month of Jun, JPA made an enquiry about my epf status (a normal procedure as I was to retire optional in July. The epf has to give clearance before my gratuity could be paid out) AND because of the enquiry, my application was canceled!!! And the chick of them never ever decide to inform me.
Soooo. this patient ex civil servant( being so understanding of the way they operate!)
1. Ask them for a clearance letter for JPA so that I could send it to JPA and thus hopefully release my gratuity!!!
2. Politely ask for the forms again so that another application could be done.
All that for that measly small amount left in the fund.
Lastly, let's hope that in 3 months time, I have good news from them
hubby and me getaway
Two weekends ago, hubby and me went on a holiday without the kids and anybody else.We have been planning for a long time .So many things came up. The first idea was to go Japan, then he can't getaway. Then it was an exotic getaway and the agent said the place was full. I actually had already given up hope. Especially after all the postponements. Finally off we went for just an overnight stay! Both claim that the other party couldn't leave the family behind and I believe both are guilty as charged! That's the trouble. We are still learning to let go. The kids were wonderful. As a matter of fact, E was busy helping to pack, to make sure I had everything I need. As we go off, they were busy giving last minute instructions to remember to carry my handbag everywhere I go, to follow daddy so that I won't be lost. Doesn't they sound and act just like us when they went off to camp the first time :) (By the way, Sis was also very cooperative cuz she and hubby took the whole gang out for dinner so we have one thing less to think. Thanks big sister!)
We had a lovely time just taking care of ourselves. It was totally relaxing and for the first time in 23 years we had no care in the world for 24 hours.Why 23 years, that was the number of years ago when the children hadn't come along. Ha Ha Ha
Next time round, we told ourselves that we will make it longer. See how that goes. In the meantime, we hope to plan for a family holiday soon.
We had a lovely time just taking care of ourselves. It was totally relaxing and for the first time in 23 years we had no care in the world for 24 hours.Why 23 years, that was the number of years ago when the children hadn't come along. Ha Ha Ha
Next time round, we told ourselves that we will make it longer. See how that goes. In the meantime, we hope to plan for a family holiday soon.
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
what is love
On numerous occasions, I had been asked how do one know when one has found the right one. Obviously, that question did not come from my contemporaries. It came from the younger generation when they came visiting or over coffee and cake on an outing.
I have always believe that when one has met the right one ,one will know. That is because first and foremost, you will want to spend all your free time with the other party.Next you will enjoy her company(I will from now on assume the question is from a guy but it goes the same way with a girl). You will love to tell her your life story and you will want to know every detail of her life too.You will want do things that pleases her and try to understand her preferences.All this is the first level.
The next level is when her bad or undesirable habits is acceptable.You will accept and not compromise.You will want to give and not expect it to be returned. She will be the one whose opinion will matter.
Thirdly, it must be two ways. No relationship will go far if it is unidirectional. As a matter of fact learn to accept that there will be times when you care but it is not reciprocated. At that instant, please sit back and ponder. There is no right or wrong, should or shouldn't in a long term relationship. There is only...if it is the right one.
To take the plunge,one must do so with the understanding that it is forever.In all relationships, there will be quarrels and squabbles as time goes by. They are temporary.You WILL get back together. There should not be any doubt about that. And both must subscribe to this belief.
Keeping a relationship alive needs working on. Things do not just happen. There are times you need to show and re enforce.More important it takes TWO.
All this is but a tip of the ice-cream tub(as in iceberg for something negative). One can write volumes on the topic but then love is something to eujoy and not learned. Last word is, I personally believe you will know. Matthew and me prove that didn't we? We just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday and we are blessed with the loveliest of children and a warm family. I love you, Matthew.
I have always believe that when one has met the right one ,one will know. That is because first and foremost, you will want to spend all your free time with the other party.Next you will enjoy her company(I will from now on assume the question is from a guy but it goes the same way with a girl). You will love to tell her your life story and you will want to know every detail of her life too.You will want do things that pleases her and try to understand her preferences.All this is the first level.
The next level is when her bad or undesirable habits is acceptable.You will accept and not compromise.You will want to give and not expect it to be returned. She will be the one whose opinion will matter.
Thirdly, it must be two ways. No relationship will go far if it is unidirectional. As a matter of fact learn to accept that there will be times when you care but it is not reciprocated. At that instant, please sit back and ponder. There is no right or wrong, should or shouldn't in a long term relationship. There is only...if it is the right one.
To take the plunge,one must do so with the understanding that it is forever.In all relationships, there will be quarrels and squabbles as time goes by. They are temporary.You WILL get back together. There should not be any doubt about that. And both must subscribe to this belief.
Keeping a relationship alive needs working on. Things do not just happen. There are times you need to show and re enforce.More important it takes TWO.
All this is but a tip of the ice-cream tub(as in iceberg for something negative). One can write volumes on the topic but then love is something to eujoy and not learned. Last word is, I personally believe you will know. Matthew and me prove that didn't we? We just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday and we are blessed with the loveliest of children and a warm family. I love you, Matthew.
missing in action
So I made another mistake.On retirement, it does not mean I will have more time to write. I had been a bit too ambitious.
There had been so many things that I had wanted to do for so long. I started packing my school stuff, clearing the computer files, packing home stuff, bought my cloth for patchwork, started to clean my kitchen took out the books I wanted to read, enjoy library etc etc. I think I should be more patient and take things one at a time. Otherwise I will be having a lorry load of unfinished projects by year end.
Just called up a school too. Now I have to come up with a resume if I want to go back to work.Edmund is on holiday and since his holidays are so limited, I also want to spend time with him.Had a long list of things to share with him too.
Mother in law not well for the last one week. All that didn't help.
Not forgetting I also want to get started with my social work.
Arrrrgh........................... I had to be careful otherwise I will be back to square one just like school days. But again the difference is that I love every minute of it now.It is like going from distill water to ice-cream!
There had been so many things that I had wanted to do for so long. I started packing my school stuff, clearing the computer files, packing home stuff, bought my cloth for patchwork, started to clean my kitchen took out the books I wanted to read, enjoy library etc etc. I think I should be more patient and take things one at a time. Otherwise I will be having a lorry load of unfinished projects by year end.
Just called up a school too. Now I have to come up with a resume if I want to go back to work.Edmund is on holiday and since his holidays are so limited, I also want to spend time with him.Had a long list of things to share with him too.
Mother in law not well for the last one week. All that didn't help.
Not forgetting I also want to get started with my social work.
Arrrrgh........................... I had to be careful otherwise I will be back to square one just like school days. But again the difference is that I love every minute of it now.It is like going from distill water to ice-cream!
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
ex-student's wedding
I told myself that as I leave the school scene, I should blog on other interests like motherhood, wife hood(ha ha ha not only can I use foul language, I can also use bad English.But I think it is not a good habit to cultivate.!)and so much more out there.
but I have to go back on my own promise and say something on PH's wedding on 07.07.07.
Ex-student PH visited me last year sometime around August to let me know that he is getting married this year. I didn't know that one need to book dates a year ahead before one's marriage! A year before I married M, it didn't even cross my mind that I will marry him.(now I am going to get it from you know who ha ha ha) Anyway so my diary was block a year ago.
Come last month, the invitation came. Last week I wasn't sure if I will be there for his church ceremony feeling a bit out of place. Cut the story short, I went and I felt nostalgic. The very child I disciplined, scolded, talked to is now a married man.We talked about career, girls, courtship and what no ts.This new year, he even brought R to meet me and now they are standing there bride and groom.
As he hug me when I enter the hall, once again I knew why I never regretted the career a chose 32 years ago.
That night at the dinner, met up with numerous ex students too.As I stood in the middle of the photos, I felt like a mother hen with her brood! The hugs they gave me and the words of thanks they showered on me made me feel so special. They wanted to share their success and let me know that they have not failed me.
To all of you there that night , your success if my success. Your happiness is my happiness. Like I said it, I may not remember your names, but I could remember all the time we spend together.I recognised KK by his voice and mannerism!
Postscript...The next few days as the news of my retirement spread, more messages of congratulations came in.
To PH and R, have an awesome life together.I felt good as I witness your wedding.To the rest, thank you for the memories.
but I have to go back on my own promise and say something on PH's wedding on 07.07.07.
Ex-student PH visited me last year sometime around August to let me know that he is getting married this year. I didn't know that one need to book dates a year ahead before one's marriage! A year before I married M, it didn't even cross my mind that I will marry him.(now I am going to get it from you know who ha ha ha) Anyway so my diary was block a year ago.
Come last month, the invitation came. Last week I wasn't sure if I will be there for his church ceremony feeling a bit out of place. Cut the story short, I went and I felt nostalgic. The very child I disciplined, scolded, talked to is now a married man.We talked about career, girls, courtship and what no ts.This new year, he even brought R to meet me and now they are standing there bride and groom.
As he hug me when I enter the hall, once again I knew why I never regretted the career a chose 32 years ago.
That night at the dinner, met up with numerous ex students too.As I stood in the middle of the photos, I felt like a mother hen with her brood! The hugs they gave me and the words of thanks they showered on me made me feel so special. They wanted to share their success and let me know that they have not failed me.
To all of you there that night , your success if my success. Your happiness is my happiness. Like I said it, I may not remember your names, but I could remember all the time we spend together.I recognised KK by his voice and mannerism!
Postscript...The next few days as the news of my retirement spread, more messages of congratulations came in.
To PH and R, have an awesome life together.I felt good as I witness your wedding.To the rest, thank you for the memories.
Tuesday, July 3, 2007
maiden photo blogging
Photos of my last day in school
The HM that brought back a smile to my face and make life bearable for the last 4 months
A good friend that has to make an impromptu speech at the last minute but it was BEAUTIFUL
A LOVELY gesture from friends I made ONLY over 4 months. Now I know why God send me there.
To-be-Guru-guru cemerlang of 2017
Good friends
Chatting mates for 4 months
I love you all
supporting staff
men of the school
you are ok.
A lovely pair of dangling earrings from the students of the school chosen by the biggest boy of the school!
The group whom I could close both eyes and just crap!(Wow See, I could use foul language now!)
1976 UM orientation roommate reunited as helpful supportive afternoon supervisor.
Happy birthday to you(Sweet 18?)
Good buddy system, don't you think so?
The HM that brought back a smile to my face and make life bearable for the last 4 months
A good friend that has to make an impromptu speech at the last minute but it was BEAUTIFUL
A LOVELY gesture from friends I made ONLY over 4 months. Now I know why God send me there.
To-be-Guru-guru cemerlang of 2017
Good friends
Chatting mates for 4 months
I love you all
supporting staff 
men of the school
you are ok.
A lovely pair of dangling earrings from the students of the school chosen by the biggest boy of the school!
The group whom I could close both eyes and just crap!(Wow See, I could use foul language now!)
1976 UM orientation roommate reunited as helpful supportive afternoon supervisor.
Happy birthday to you(Sweet 18?)
Good buddy system, don't you think so?
looking for an answer
Last weekend followed hubby to a wedding bersanding. Met up with quite a few of his old old colleagues.Chat with R got me thinking again about a question that has been on my mind.let me give you a few kisah benar first.
case 1
husband and wife are teachers. have 2 lovely smart daughters. Eldest wanted to do medicine (and any parents can tell you that will mean RM1000000 for an external degree.) Parent consented to daughter going to UK with the promise that she will help daughter no 2 when the time comes.7 years later. daughter no 1 come back converted to Christianity. Church tell her that all her earnings go to church. church will give pocket money to her. parents devastated. 2nd daughter studies put on halt.
case 2.
Student went oversea to study. good quiet sweet girl with practically no flaws(she was my student. I know). Converted overseas. Gave maximum money to church. survived practically on coffee and instant mee for a year. Come end of course. church say her church work not completed. so to keep her there one more year why don't she fail and repeat. Girl did that. parents don't know a thing.
case 3.
working parents retire. son wants to do a 7 years course. parents gave gratuity to him. since he is a good boy. son finish course, did another year in bible college. decided to leave the degree and do missionary work in east m'sia. Parents eyes are red from crying because now they have to work in their 60's to support themselves. Other Christians tell them they are lucky because the family will be blessed.
case 4
christian elder don't like L. tell another elder that L is possessed. Elder number 2 came under the pretence of praying for L but actually checking if L is possessed.Where is privacy act?
case 5
K is only son to elderly parents.(non convert) Son go on mission trip. Come back and tell parents he is not going back to work. Going to do missionary work at 3rd world.
Questions
1.does the name of religion gives someone the authority to act like God?
2. Who are religious leaders to decides the route a young man takes without regards to his or her background.
3. Is one statement like Your family will be bless, It is your calling, God will take care of things for you, have trust in Him... sufficient to covers every thing?
4. Is this Christianity? or is it man's interpretation of Christianity.
I am sorry if I am opening a can of worms and inviting trouble but sincerely, I have my doubts
My idea of the faith is to help others. be there when they need you, bring some peace and love into the world. do no harm and definitely not pain and tears.Go about with a pure sincere heart, love all irregardless of faith Then God will guide you.If life dish out lemons to you, God will show you how to make lemonade BUT definitely I am not the one to throw the lemons at you.
case 1
husband and wife are teachers. have 2 lovely smart daughters. Eldest wanted to do medicine (and any parents can tell you that will mean RM1000000 for an external degree.) Parent consented to daughter going to UK with the promise that she will help daughter no 2 when the time comes.7 years later. daughter no 1 come back converted to Christianity. Church tell her that all her earnings go to church. church will give pocket money to her. parents devastated. 2nd daughter studies put on halt.
case 2.
Student went oversea to study. good quiet sweet girl with practically no flaws(she was my student. I know). Converted overseas. Gave maximum money to church. survived practically on coffee and instant mee for a year. Come end of course. church say her church work not completed. so to keep her there one more year why don't she fail and repeat. Girl did that. parents don't know a thing.
case 3.
working parents retire. son wants to do a 7 years course. parents gave gratuity to him. since he is a good boy. son finish course, did another year in bible college. decided to leave the degree and do missionary work in east m'sia. Parents eyes are red from crying because now they have to work in their 60's to support themselves. Other Christians tell them they are lucky because the family will be blessed.
case 4
christian elder don't like L. tell another elder that L is possessed. Elder number 2 came under the pretence of praying for L but actually checking if L is possessed.Where is privacy act?
case 5
K is only son to elderly parents.(non convert) Son go on mission trip. Come back and tell parents he is not going back to work. Going to do missionary work at 3rd world.
Questions
1.does the name of religion gives someone the authority to act like God?
2. Who are religious leaders to decides the route a young man takes without regards to his or her background.
3. Is one statement like Your family will be bless, It is your calling, God will take care of things for you, have trust in Him... sufficient to covers every thing?
4. Is this Christianity? or is it man's interpretation of Christianity.
I am sorry if I am opening a can of worms and inviting trouble but sincerely, I have my doubts
My idea of the faith is to help others. be there when they need you, bring some peace and love into the world. do no harm and definitely not pain and tears.Go about with a pure sincere heart, love all irregardless of faith Then God will guide you.If life dish out lemons to you, God will show you how to make lemonade BUT definitely I am not the one to throw the lemons at you.
post retirement!!! what is the difference
Phew! So many asked how is life after retirement? Well.... I haven't started to enjoy it yet. I have approximately 20+ things that I need to look into as soon as possible. But this morning after my morning walk(yeah yeah yeah I am going back to my walking at the desa park every morning after I send off M and Ad.The whole routine takes approximately 50 minutes but hope to increase it as time goes by.) I decided to go into my blog.
I guess that is the difference between pre and post retirement. I no longer need to think and plan my days so that the office runs well. so that the teachers get their letters in time, so that the syllabus is finished, letters are send out according to datelines, projects are organised well with minimum flaws. I do things as I feel like it except for the fact that as for now, I have so many things I have to do!!!
In school I have started and redo the filing system 3 times. A a matter of fact it was the last but one project(implemented on 1.6.07} before I got to go!I had to start from scratch the first time and subsequently follow certain guidelines given out. overall I still need to plan and see to it that enough files are opened but not too many to burden the people concern. But do you know that the documents in my house is a mess. I remembered M saying once that one of the things that attracted him was the systematic way in which I keep things.He loves going through things and his idea of packing is bringing everything out on the floor and asking me what are they. THEN his job is finish! I have to do the rest. Anyway back to present day, I NEED to do something to the tons of documents lying every where in the house. It has been a mess for too long.
Next, every morning in school before 8 I try to see to all letters.Carefully forward them to the respective teachers (got to select them with a reason otherwise cannot answer when they ask why they have to do it.) Next got to see that the teacher is not required to do multiple tasks at the same time. Then I record the letters to the diary and the teachers assigned then I put out the pile to the office to be given out. letters which need immediate attention like meetings in 1 day's time, I will put the word SEGERA not forgetting letters that need HM's personal attention or advice, I will take them out and see him myself...... back to home, everyday I open the letters, glance thro them to find out where they came from,(sometimes I don't even open them when I know what their rough contend is!!!) then I will put it back into the envelopes and happily put it on hubby's table. sometimes he see sometimes they got lost.! another habit i better bring home from school before we get into trouble with the authorities
so you think you are free... retired with no income.... Yes. FREE definitely not at least not for sometime but the difference is I am only answerable to myself. now that is the difference
I guess that is the difference between pre and post retirement. I no longer need to think and plan my days so that the office runs well. so that the teachers get their letters in time, so that the syllabus is finished, letters are send out according to datelines, projects are organised well with minimum flaws. I do things as I feel like it except for the fact that as for now, I have so many things I have to do!!!
In school I have started and redo the filing system 3 times. A a matter of fact it was the last but one project(implemented on 1.6.07} before I got to go!I had to start from scratch the first time and subsequently follow certain guidelines given out. overall I still need to plan and see to it that enough files are opened but not too many to burden the people concern. But do you know that the documents in my house is a mess. I remembered M saying once that one of the things that attracted him was the systematic way in which I keep things.He loves going through things and his idea of packing is bringing everything out on the floor and asking me what are they. THEN his job is finish! I have to do the rest. Anyway back to present day, I NEED to do something to the tons of documents lying every where in the house. It has been a mess for too long.
Next, every morning in school before 8 I try to see to all letters.Carefully forward them to the respective teachers (got to select them with a reason otherwise cannot answer when they ask why they have to do it.) Next got to see that the teacher is not required to do multiple tasks at the same time. Then I record the letters to the diary and the teachers assigned then I put out the pile to the office to be given out. letters which need immediate attention like meetings in 1 day's time, I will put the word SEGERA not forgetting letters that need HM's personal attention or advice, I will take them out and see him myself...... back to home, everyday I open the letters, glance thro them to find out where they came from,(sometimes I don't even open them when I know what their rough contend is!!!) then I will put it back into the envelopes and happily put it on hubby's table. sometimes he see sometimes they got lost.! another habit i better bring home from school before we get into trouble with the authorities
so you think you are free... retired with no income.... Yes. FREE definitely not at least not for sometime but the difference is I am only answerable to myself. now that is the difference
Wednesday, June 27, 2007
met up with ST at the hosp
Just came back from the Uni hosp after seeing the doctor about my blood results and collecting my pressure and cholesterol medication.
As ST says, what a place and time but we met up.A good friend. She is there to see the same doctor concerning her own medical problem.Wish her well and that her problem get solved as soon as possible.
Also finds out that one good turn decerves another. I voluntered to help A collect her medication. Apparently it has to be collected from Pharmcare, a new service where one can book your medication before hand. This will reduce collection time tremendously(like 5 minutes compared to 2 hours!!!) Next when i collected my medication , lady at the counter mentioned it to me about the service and I decided to register for the service immediately.My next visit to the pharmacy should be much more pleasant.
Next, ST asked how I felt as 1 July approaches. That got me thinking. The fact that I am glad I am retiring each morning I woke up lead me to believe it is a good decision. But as all humans go, there is definately a slight wonder as to how life will be like after that. Well.I owe it to my family to look forward positively. I will close one chapter of my life on Saturday, 30 Jun 2007 and open up a new one.
By the way, tomorrow marks the anniversay of that dreadfull day in BB. Another reason for me to close it after one year. So, retired life, here I comes...............
As ST says, what a place and time but we met up.A good friend. She is there to see the same doctor concerning her own medical problem.Wish her well and that her problem get solved as soon as possible.
Also finds out that one good turn decerves another. I voluntered to help A collect her medication. Apparently it has to be collected from Pharmcare, a new service where one can book your medication before hand. This will reduce collection time tremendously(like 5 minutes compared to 2 hours!!!) Next when i collected my medication , lady at the counter mentioned it to me about the service and I decided to register for the service immediately.My next visit to the pharmacy should be much more pleasant.
Next, ST asked how I felt as 1 July approaches. That got me thinking. The fact that I am glad I am retiring each morning I woke up lead me to believe it is a good decision. But as all humans go, there is definately a slight wonder as to how life will be like after that. Well.I owe it to my family to look forward positively. I will close one chapter of my life on Saturday, 30 Jun 2007 and open up a new one.
By the way, tomorrow marks the anniversay of that dreadfull day in BB. Another reason for me to close it after one year. So, retired life, here I comes...............
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
what else can you ask for
Two nights ago, I shared my thoughts concerning my upcoming retirement with my 17 and 20 year old children. When I mentioned that I will be bringing in approximately RM3500 less into the home income due to my retirement, their immediate reaction was.
"If it meant so much, I will not drive to Uni anymore and just take a bus.That way we can save on the petrol and car"
"i will pack lunch to school from now on if we need to save"
Simple words from simple minds but meant a world to me. To further strengthen their support, they have came up with a list of dishes they would expect on the table after I retire! Just in case I got bored at home!
OK children, I love you all with all my heart and I will go on with my life the best I know how. I owe you all that.kisses and hugs from mummy
"If it meant so much, I will not drive to Uni anymore and just take a bus.That way we can save on the petrol and car"
"i will pack lunch to school from now on if we need to save"
Simple words from simple minds but meant a world to me. To further strengthen their support, they have came up with a list of dishes they would expect on the table after I retire! Just in case I got bored at home!
OK children, I love you all with all my heart and I will go on with my life the best I know how. I owe you all that.kisses and hugs from mummy
Thursday, June 14, 2007
confusing thoughts
As 1 July approaches, I start to have mix feelings. It is 15 more days before I am officially a retiree.
The events that lead to this day have not been pleasant at all. It all started with unpleasant happenings with a new headmaster in the school and it blew up to an open confrontation. In my 28 years in teaching and dealing with students, parents, teachers HMs, nothing prepares me for the attack and the pain it caused. I have never met with one so …..(I don’t even have a polite word to describe her). From young, my parents taught us not to argue, quarrel and to push our way around. My mother and her mother have always believed that all things can be resolved thro polite discussion. Bottom line is, it was devastating and I had allowed it to totally break me down. It broke my emotion and it broke my spirit. It crashes my faith. Broken bones can be healed. Broken hearts requires time. My broken spirit, I really don’t know.
I found it so difficult to bring myself to school after that. I was receiving professional help but she was determined to break me further and finish me totally. I consoled myself by pretending it wasn’t intentional and it was due to other factors but deep down, I know otherwise. All that went on for 6 months. It was sheer torture mentally and psychologically and emotionally. Every morning was like waking up to another of torture and pain.
In the meantime, many things happened. I decided to put in my papers for optional retirement. The state department then decided to promote me and took me to another school. The second school was trying to retain their own staff thus not very happy with my appointment. In the words of the new HM, They have nothing against me but they just want their own staff. In the meantime, I was caught in the middle.
The only kind thing that happened was the ever strong support I had from my husband and children. He was about to change his job too when all these started to happen. He was going thro a lot of mixed emotions as he was much loved in his old place but he feel he need to move on. He took me along for his farewell meeting. The children were frightened not knowing what was happening and thank God, their studies were not too affected.
Going back to school was torturous and I remember praying for strength just to see me thro each day.
Finally, 4 months ago, all appeals were turn down and I had report to the new school. It didn’t start too well as the new school had to let go a senior teacher and take me in knowing very well I won’t be long. Even with that, things were getting better as the hate and tension were missing. At that point I was still keen to go thro the optional as I feel I was tired and the papers were already in.
Come May, the papers were delayed because the state level had to postpone my date from 1 June to 1 July.
As if the joke weren’t complete, the government has to announce a huge pay increase from 1 July causing me to lose RK20K in gratuity.
Finally now, I am so confused. Was I irrational and too selfish? Was I fair to the family in my decision? Should I have try harder? Should I allow her to destroy my passion? These questions and many others are swimming in my mind daily and hourly.
The events that lead to this day have not been pleasant at all. It all started with unpleasant happenings with a new headmaster in the school and it blew up to an open confrontation. In my 28 years in teaching and dealing with students, parents, teachers HMs, nothing prepares me for the attack and the pain it caused. I have never met with one so …..(I don’t even have a polite word to describe her). From young, my parents taught us not to argue, quarrel and to push our way around. My mother and her mother have always believed that all things can be resolved thro polite discussion. Bottom line is, it was devastating and I had allowed it to totally break me down. It broke my emotion and it broke my spirit. It crashes my faith. Broken bones can be healed. Broken hearts requires time. My broken spirit, I really don’t know.
I found it so difficult to bring myself to school after that. I was receiving professional help but she was determined to break me further and finish me totally. I consoled myself by pretending it wasn’t intentional and it was due to other factors but deep down, I know otherwise. All that went on for 6 months. It was sheer torture mentally and psychologically and emotionally. Every morning was like waking up to another of torture and pain.
In the meantime, many things happened. I decided to put in my papers for optional retirement. The state department then decided to promote me and took me to another school. The second school was trying to retain their own staff thus not very happy with my appointment. In the words of the new HM, They have nothing against me but they just want their own staff. In the meantime, I was caught in the middle.
The only kind thing that happened was the ever strong support I had from my husband and children. He was about to change his job too when all these started to happen. He was going thro a lot of mixed emotions as he was much loved in his old place but he feel he need to move on. He took me along for his farewell meeting. The children were frightened not knowing what was happening and thank God, their studies were not too affected.
Going back to school was torturous and I remember praying for strength just to see me thro each day.
Finally, 4 months ago, all appeals were turn down and I had report to the new school. It didn’t start too well as the new school had to let go a senior teacher and take me in knowing very well I won’t be long. Even with that, things were getting better as the hate and tension were missing. At that point I was still keen to go thro the optional as I feel I was tired and the papers were already in.
Come May, the papers were delayed because the state level had to postpone my date from 1 June to 1 July.
As if the joke weren’t complete, the government has to announce a huge pay increase from 1 July causing me to lose RK20K in gratuity.
Finally now, I am so confused. Was I irrational and too selfish? Was I fair to the family in my decision? Should I have try harder? Should I allow her to destroy my passion? These questions and many others are swimming in my mind daily and hourly.
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
Finally
Aiyah! yesterday was the first time losing the blog after unsuccessfully posting it. Here we go again......
32 years ago when I applied for the Bachelor of Sci with Ed. , my sister ask me why I chose teaching? Fair enough question since I was the first undergrad of the family and they have higher hopes for me. What more with the fact that the family already has a bunch of teachers for 2 generations. Well today as I move out of the career( yeah, I finally received the final letter from JPA to retire on 1 July 2007), I would like to declare that I have no regrets. I loved every moment I spend with the young people I worked with and I enjoyed the challenges of trying to put things in place and offer ideas to improve all aspects of the school. What I am sorry about is the incompetence of leaders and the politics involved in the an arena where it just shouldn't exist. I put it to the leaders who should be competent enough to arrest such unhealthy happenings. The school is a place where ideas should come together for the good of the young ones and FULLSTOP. That should be it and nothing else. All visions and missions should boil down to it. So to my sister's question..... I love teaching and I love being there for the kids and I am glad I did it. How else one
1. get egg tarts send to the house early one morning just because an ex-student is passing by.
2. get invited to reunions, dinners and tea sessions practically every month.
3. get introduced to girlfriends of ex-boys before they get married.
4. get to share young people's happiness , dreams, ideals, tears and heartache and much much more.
To all of you ex-students who have cross my path, Thanks for letting share your life and I love you all.
32 years ago when I applied for the Bachelor of Sci with Ed. , my sister ask me why I chose teaching? Fair enough question since I was the first undergrad of the family and they have higher hopes for me. What more with the fact that the family already has a bunch of teachers for 2 generations. Well today as I move out of the career( yeah, I finally received the final letter from JPA to retire on 1 July 2007), I would like to declare that I have no regrets. I loved every moment I spend with the young people I worked with and I enjoyed the challenges of trying to put things in place and offer ideas to improve all aspects of the school. What I am sorry about is the incompetence of leaders and the politics involved in the an arena where it just shouldn't exist. I put it to the leaders who should be competent enough to arrest such unhealthy happenings. The school is a place where ideas should come together for the good of the young ones and FULLSTOP. That should be it and nothing else. All visions and missions should boil down to it. So to my sister's question..... I love teaching and I love being there for the kids and I am glad I did it. How else one
1. get egg tarts send to the house early one morning just because an ex-student is passing by.
2. get invited to reunions, dinners and tea sessions practically every month.
3. get introduced to girlfriends of ex-boys before they get married.
4. get to share young people's happiness , dreams, ideals, tears and heartache and much much more.
To all of you ex-students who have cross my path, Thanks for letting share your life and I love you all.
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
so you think the holidays are here?
Back to the school scene, last week in school was a compact week of activities (when is it otherwise with the new school!) All the kids were busy with sports day practise, heats and all other preparations. Could hardly squeeze any formal lessons in.
Come Thursday morning was supposed to be filled with normal lessons (one guess whether any teaching was done) Not only that, at 7.10 am, was told that Hm will not be in school in the morning because he need to collect T-shirts from out of town in time for the afternoon do. Apparently, at every sports day, all officials will wear a new T-shirt. Not a bad idea. I think it gives the teachers a new good togetherness feeling. Anyway the colour was not bad too. Kudos to R. Unfortunately, as in all organization, there are those not happy. Acceptable. With 100 adults, no one should expect 100% support. The afternoon went on fine though the VIP couldn't made it. Felt sorry for HM but relieve that no outsiders to take care.
Had a chance in the middle of everything to know a particular teacher better. Thank You God for opportunities like that to touch others. She was grateful for the chance to share and I think He has just used my physical body again. Praise the Lord.
Friday was another story, founder's day plus teachers day. One thing for sure, there is absolutely no stress on any function. Things just went on and it will just be on. (how else to express it?) MA was right as it was a bit boring but who really is complaining. BTW, the head boy said his goodbye to me in his speech!
Weekend and if you think the holiday is here, you are dead wrong. The school organised its annual educational retreat where selected boys will camp in the school for 3 days 2 nite while motivational talks and special answering techniques are belted out. Once again good idea. Kudos to the one man organiser P, to the teachers who worked so independently to get the speakers and agreed to stay overnight with the boys. Have I told you how amazed I am at the teachers attitude. They may have their lacking and idiosyncrasy with all their complains, but you have to give them A! for contributing to the school!!!!!
Points to note as it ended on Monday morning.
Come Thursday morning was supposed to be filled with normal lessons (one guess whether any teaching was done) Not only that, at 7.10 am, was told that Hm will not be in school in the morning because he need to collect T-shirts from out of town in time for the afternoon do. Apparently, at every sports day, all officials will wear a new T-shirt. Not a bad idea. I think it gives the teachers a new good togetherness feeling. Anyway the colour was not bad too. Kudos to R. Unfortunately, as in all organization, there are those not happy. Acceptable. With 100 adults, no one should expect 100% support. The afternoon went on fine though the VIP couldn't made it. Felt sorry for HM but relieve that no outsiders to take care.
Had a chance in the middle of everything to know a particular teacher better. Thank You God for opportunities like that to touch others. She was grateful for the chance to share and I think He has just used my physical body again. Praise the Lord.
Friday was another story, founder's day plus teachers day. One thing for sure, there is absolutely no stress on any function. Things just went on and it will just be on. (how else to express it?) MA was right as it was a bit boring but who really is complaining. BTW, the head boy said his goodbye to me in his speech!
Weekend and if you think the holiday is here, you are dead wrong. The school organised its annual educational retreat where selected boys will camp in the school for 3 days 2 nite while motivational talks and special answering techniques are belted out. Once again good idea. Kudos to the one man organiser P, to the teachers who worked so independently to get the speakers and agreed to stay overnight with the boys. Have I told you how amazed I am at the teachers attitude. They may have their lacking and idiosyncrasy with all their complains, but you have to give them A! for contributing to the school!!!!!
Points to note as it ended on Monday morning.
- Good idea, good speakers. Pity the boys hardly ready to accept it. Guess that is the culture.
- AJK must have more exact details with more supporting subcommittees and involving all GK
- Organizing skills need to be improved.
- Registration to be improved by only asking students to check particulars and not fill in the particulars.
- Rooms need to be given to boys at registration.
- no of rooms used must be fixed and ready before registration.
- dress code must be presentable to create the atmosphere
- meeting rooms must be ready with furniture arrangement.
Otherwise all schools should give it a try.
Come Monday afternoon holiday starts and I can start keeping all my medical appointments and play my role as a mother........................until I next need to be in school which is TOMORROW. Now do you know why I need to retire?
latest count of friends
I have resigned to the fact of my RM20K lost. My friend hasn't. WYC is still trying out means to help me get it back. Love you and thanks for being a friend.
Got in touch with W, fellow about-to-be retiree too. After a long chat we decided to leave things as it is. We will wait for the optional approval letter first. Then only will we think of the next step. As for myself, my stand is as in the last blog.
Later in the day yesterday, met up with the HEM gang, Found out that all teachers opting out this round are affected. Including those who have got KPM's blessing earlier on in the year and those from Wilayah. Well. what else to say!
Got in touch with W, fellow about-to-be retiree too. After a long chat we decided to leave things as it is. We will wait for the optional approval letter first. Then only will we think of the next step. As for myself, my stand is as in the last blog.
Later in the day yesterday, met up with the HEM gang, Found out that all teachers opting out this round are affected. Including those who have got KPM's blessing earlier on in the year and those from Wilayah. Well. what else to say!
Monday, May 28, 2007
Que sera sera
One week and so much has happened. To continue with the story of the pay rise, with the government's announcement of adjusting the pension, I hope to receive the revised pension value which will reduce my financial lost. As for my gratuity, I will lose approximately RM20K. Quite a sizable amount. I am blessed with a school clerk who has gone all out to call up JPS and JPA to help.(and got told off in the process too). A school support staff who make a special effort to get me to appeal to JPA irregardless what others has to say. Bless him. Thank God for a absolutely understanding supportive husband who understood my inner feelings and agree to leave things as it is.We ultimately believe that whatever it is to be, it is His wish.If He feel I should be getting RM 20K less, so be it.I have no intention of asking Him why. I still can't help feeling like a stepchild but like a stepchild i still love and respect Him.
At the end of it, I am feeling more blessed having so many caring people around me.A and V from the school office, WYC from state office, the nameless lady who talked to us from JPA, MY ultimate husband and loveliest children who feel that chocolate cookies and cakes are anytime more important than money! I love you all
At the end of it, I am feeling more blessed having so many caring people around me.A and V from the school office, WYC from state office, the nameless lady who talked to us from JPA, MY ultimate husband and loveliest children who feel that chocolate cookies and cakes are anytime more important than money! I love you all
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
What title should I use?
As I write this blog I couldn't decide to name it Twist of Fate or Where is Fate?
All my life, money has never been an objective for me. I have always felt that peace, love health is definately top on my list.
Up until the time I decide to opt out, I feel that the financial lost is acceptable for the exchange for my sanity and health. I am blessed with a family who supported me all the way. But I can't deny the impact I felt after the salary hike announced yesterday. The hike is on 1 July and my opt date is 30.Jun. With a difference of a second I lost approximately RM400 a month on my pension for the rest of my life. Also affected will be my gratuity the amount which I haven't calculated.
To add salt on wound, we were supposed to have gone on Jun but they have to delay us by one more month just so that the impact more glaring.
Next I ask if that was God's version of a joke on me.My fate believe that nothing goes without His OK so what is His message? Is it a punishment? In numerous occasions over the last 9 months, I query my faith. Why are those who hurt so much rewarded so well. sounded like the bad enjoy and the good suffer. I feel like a stepchild who love the parents at all cost and situation but I have A stepparent who always have a preference of His chosen one over me. It was all these thoughts and shaky feelings that help me to decide to leave bcuz I don't want her presence in my life to shake my faith. Similarly that is why I don't intend to go to church in the near future to meet up with more Christians and feel more shakened. Until such time when I am more stable I refuse to expose myself to another shake.
All my life, money has never been an objective for me. I have always felt that peace, love health is definately top on my list.
Up until the time I decide to opt out, I feel that the financial lost is acceptable for the exchange for my sanity and health. I am blessed with a family who supported me all the way. But I can't deny the impact I felt after the salary hike announced yesterday. The hike is on 1 July and my opt date is 30.Jun. With a difference of a second I lost approximately RM400 a month on my pension for the rest of my life. Also affected will be my gratuity the amount which I haven't calculated.
To add salt on wound, we were supposed to have gone on Jun but they have to delay us by one more month just so that the impact more glaring.
Next I ask if that was God's version of a joke on me.My fate believe that nothing goes without His OK so what is His message? Is it a punishment? In numerous occasions over the last 9 months, I query my faith. Why are those who hurt so much rewarded so well. sounded like the bad enjoy and the good suffer. I feel like a stepchild who love the parents at all cost and situation but I have A stepparent who always have a preference of His chosen one over me. It was all these thoughts and shaky feelings that help me to decide to leave bcuz I don't want her presence in my life to shake my faith. Similarly that is why I don't intend to go to church in the near future to meet up with more Christians and feel more shakened. Until such time when I am more stable I refuse to expose myself to another shake.
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