Tuesday, July 24, 2007

what is love

On numerous occasions, I had been asked how do one know when one has found the right one. Obviously, that question did not come from my contemporaries. It came from the younger generation when they came visiting or over coffee and cake on an outing.
I have always believe that when one has met the right one ,one will know. That is because first and foremost, you will want to spend all your free time with the other party.Next you will enjoy her company(I will from now on assume the question is from a guy but it goes the same way with a girl). You will love to tell her your life story and you will want to know every detail of her life too.You will want do things that pleases her and try to understand her preferences.All this is the first level.
The next level is when her bad or undesirable habits is acceptable.You will accept and not compromise.You will want to give and not expect it to be returned. She will be the one whose opinion will matter.
Thirdly, it must be two ways. No relationship will go far if it is unidirectional. As a matter of fact learn to accept that there will be times when you care but it is not reciprocated. At that instant, please sit back and ponder. There is no right or wrong, should or shouldn't in a long term relationship. There is only...if it is the right one.
To take the plunge,one must do so with the understanding that it is forever.In all relationships, there will be quarrels and squabbles as time goes by. They are temporary.You WILL get back together. There should not be any doubt about that. And both must subscribe to this belief.
Keeping a relationship alive needs working on. Things do not just happen. There are times you need to show and re enforce.More important it takes TWO.
All this is but a tip of the ice-cream tub(as in iceberg for something negative). One can write volumes on the topic but then love is something to eujoy and not learned. Last word is, I personally believe you will know. Matthew and me prove that didn't we? We just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary yesterday and we are blessed with the loveliest of children and a warm family. I love you, Matthew.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

there are a lot of nice things but true love top it all.

love means everything that worth living for .....................

love you always