Last night I was watching a Chinese soap opera about a daughter-in-law who was having problems with a problematic mother-in-law, an ex girlfriend of the hubby after a whirlwind romance adjusting to married life and accepting the fact that she is pregnant. The ex carefully plotted so that she lost the baby and then choosing the right words to the hubby and MIL thus ensuring the DI L's problem escalate. Once upon a time when I see this type of show, I just say, 'show only lah' People can't be that conniving ,stupid or cruel.
It just strike me that I was the victim of this very thing.
When Q came in as the new HM, she was someone with no self confidence except her faith. Capability is below par. Along came A who anxiously told her about the 'poor' condition of the discipline. Q takes it to mean that A feels that the HEM is lousy. Actually I belief A just wanted Q to know that his job is not simple and that he contributes alot to the school. Unfortunately, messaged received was interpreted differently.
Next comes along S who carefully choose her words and implies lots more like I was a contender for her post, arrogant and I don't like her presence. etc etc.S also had her pawns all ready like HB, N, E, LS and maybe some others whom I hope I really don't want to know.Q shaky confidence, incompetence, suspicious mind was moved beautifully to the direction plotted. I am sure along the way there were others who out of favour must have happily nodded the head at the right (or wrong) time. And viola, I am out of the system. The caustic group belongs to the same religion so the religion was carefully crafted in too. As they try to move the problem unknowingly they went to the very person who plotted the whole thing-the director of the show! Again falling right into the plot.More religious elders were involved so that everything will sound more justified and again they were 'gently' guided into the plot all planned and directed just like a soap opera.
The difference is that all TV operas has the victim waking up finally and the villain kicked off. In my life story, that has not happened. and most probably never happen. Q may have woke up once but S will make sure that she will get her dose of sleeping pill so that Q will go back to sleep and maybe stay asleep for a long long time. M and the rest of the audience hopes and prays that Q wakes up but I am sure the end of the opera will not come soon. If anything there will be part 2 and and 3. Come to think of it, I was not part one. My was already third or fourth. A story repeated with different twists. A bitter sad lesson to learn and I pray nobody else need to go thro this. Unfortunately, that is life and most probably everyone will need to face up to that episode in life sometime or rather.
Thursday, January 24, 2008
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
In Memory
Two months ago I was packing my drawer as part of my promise to clear things up since I have more time on my hand.I saw the handout /paper/ whatever that we collected at the church service of Arthur's funeral. I am not' churchee' enough to use the right word but that is not what I want to blog about. What I wanted to blog about is who Arthur Yoong is to me.
He was the eldest brother of my husband and was the father figure of the family as far as I know. He was a Pastor of the AOG when I first met him. It was on the day M and me were registered and I was having my first sit down dinner with the Yong family. He welcomed me to the family and hoped that I will feel at home.Subsequently, we used to drop by his place once in a while and he always join the family for the CNY. (Maybe as CNY approaches every year, I think of him more).
I was told that in his presence, the other members of the family will tried to be better behaved. ie not dress in shorts or revealing clothing and maybe not gamble during the CNY. I used to be tickled at how the family sees him as a prime and proper Headmaster. It is as if they must be at their best of behaviour whereas in my family, all siblings are treated as equal.We joke and laugh, tease and argue as equals in all aspects.
The funny thing is that I have never seen or heard him demand that from the rest. He is a soft spoken man who speaks with love and care. He never makes you feel small or even different.He is slow moving and he is never impatient. (at least not in my impression). He has never once preached to us as a Pastor but you know he has always pray for the family. He doesn't push his way around nor insist his ways in our presence. I have never heard having anything negative to say about anyone. But you will think of him when you have something to discuss or just tell.
I really can't put it in any Queen's English words but all I know is that he makes me feel comfortable and deep down I just feel I miss him a lot. I was never really close to him but you do feel the tears as I remember him. Faith wise, he has been challenged many a times but he has vision in place and I admire him for that.
Brother Arthur, I am glad I had you for a brother-in -law and may you rest in peace.
He was the eldest brother of my husband and was the father figure of the family as far as I know. He was a Pastor of the AOG when I first met him. It was on the day M and me were registered and I was having my first sit down dinner with the Yong family. He welcomed me to the family and hoped that I will feel at home.Subsequently, we used to drop by his place once in a while and he always join the family for the CNY. (Maybe as CNY approaches every year, I think of him more).
I was told that in his presence, the other members of the family will tried to be better behaved. ie not dress in shorts or revealing clothing and maybe not gamble during the CNY. I used to be tickled at how the family sees him as a prime and proper Headmaster. It is as if they must be at their best of behaviour whereas in my family, all siblings are treated as equal.We joke and laugh, tease and argue as equals in all aspects.
The funny thing is that I have never seen or heard him demand that from the rest. He is a soft spoken man who speaks with love and care. He never makes you feel small or even different.He is slow moving and he is never impatient. (at least not in my impression). He has never once preached to us as a Pastor but you know he has always pray for the family. He doesn't push his way around nor insist his ways in our presence. I have never heard having anything negative to say about anyone. But you will think of him when you have something to discuss or just tell.
I really can't put it in any Queen's English words but all I know is that he makes me feel comfortable and deep down I just feel I miss him a lot. I was never really close to him but you do feel the tears as I remember him. Faith wise, he has been challenged many a times but he has vision in place and I admire him for that.
Brother Arthur, I am glad I had you for a brother-in -law and may you rest in peace.
Thursday, January 3, 2008
Angkor Wat
Au 'kissing' Buddha. Actually just a camera trick
Trees overgrown on the temple What a sight to behold. And there are so many of them
Beautiful Angkor Wat with it's image on the canal
Family in front of Angkor Wat and the 7 headed snake on the left . Library at the right
House at Tonle Sap while we were on the boat ride. The country is really poor. One's heart can easily go out to them. We have so much to be thankful for
Sunset scene taken at a fishing village at the stop of the boat ride.There was a 3 year old kid having a python for a pet (wound round her neck)
Bored waiting for the half-an-hour delayed flight back to KL on the last day
Daddy and his girlfriend in front of craft centre. Mummy! Where are you?
Au in front of a tut tut.
The plane we took to Siem Reap. Boys so happy to see the red colour with 2 faces on the plane!!!
23.12.2007 to 26.12.2007, the family took a tour with Orange Holiday to Cambodia.
Before the trip I was worried if the kids will be bored with ruins. but it turned out wonderful even with my bad diarrhoea. Sunday morning Dad drove Ad's car after waking up sleepy heads at 3.30 am. Parked at LCCT and off we went.
Airasia is not too bad but definitely low budget because we need to fight to sit together and paid for own food.though that wasn't too bad (one do not overeat)
Tour started immediately on landing to craft centre, Killing field and souvenir shopping at central market. Checked into a very good hotel Angkor Holidays Hotel. Wonderful clean room with cool aircond, triple beds.Went for sunset viewing where I lagged behind but made it!Daddy faithfully kept me company.
Cultural show on first night. Second night all except Ad voted for leg massage instead of another show.(In the end Ad skip it too and went for the massage too )
Second day at various part of Angkor Watt. Never knew there is so much to see. My stomach gave way and had to take the tut tut back to hotel with daddy. Fever and stomach upset.
Third day was much more relaxing for the legs.Went to silk factory, more shopping and a boat ride at Tonle Sap.
Lunches are normal 10 dishes meals but the dinners were fantastic buffets. Got to try all kinds of food Wide variety and plentiful.
Children had their first experience of foot massage (Ad vow never to go for that because he is too ticklish)
round up
Third day of 2008. By right a little late for the title of the blog but December has been a busy family month and it ended with so many things happening everyday that I nearly couldn't breath but it has been fulfilling.
Let me work backward because as usual I prefer to write as I feel and obviously the latest happenings are freshest on my mind.
The family spend Christmas in Angkor Wat and I will blog in detail about the trip All I want to say here is that it was GOOD. Daddy got to be a little bit further from office and gave him a little bit more time with the family. Ad was good enough to be willing to go with the family in the expense of his Christmas play at church. He was sporting and played his role well as big brother (when mum and dad has to leave them alone at Angkor Thom) and he managed to wake up and had breakfast with all of us everyday. Both he and Ed gave the family their body and soul! Ed managed to drag himself from IMU and notes. He didn't speak like a doctor-to-be for the 4 days though I suspect his siblings' threat might have something to do with it!. Au had a deserving holidays after having butterflies in the stomach for SPM.As for mum, I am just happy and thankful the family is together.
The next day after we touch down at KL, I had a call. Apparently second brother fell from a stool and broke his hip. He was wheeled in on 27 Dec for a three hour operation. Well, he came out good and now it is the family's turn to survive his grumbling and complains. ; ). I am amazed at his character but I certainly can't go too near to him for too long. My heart goes out to his youngest kid who has to bear most of the brunt. God please take care of him(the son) It is not easy and he needs all the help he can get.
The year has many happenings and the biggest change has been my retirement.It is a big change to me and my new year resolution is to forget what has happened the last one and a half years .I plan to start my next phrase of life and make as fulfilling as possible. For a starter, December is good good good as a retiree.No preparation and most importantly tension over the next year. It has never been the work but the unnecessary energy drainer like politics and prejudices. It was relaxing and I had never had a better December.I am overwhelmed and grateful.
After the hospital bit, the family was rounded up for spring cleaning.As usual Ad was dragged in, Ed wanted to help but the IMU bug crawled up to him very fast after touch down not forgetting his busy social life. All left was Daddy and Au. Dad has always been a good husband and I thank God for that. He lead, he moved and he heaved.Sometimes I pushed a little but I can't ask for more. Thank you, Darling.Audrey has been a little darling too the last few years. She is always there at the kitchen and every where when things need to be done. She pampered me and rule me with a glare when I look tired.(Of course he had Ed's support to scold me too when the latter knows of it later) The children are all darlings and sweetheart's.Maybe different flavour but nevertheless sweethearts.The curtains are all done, the books packed and recycled, the storeroom cleaned and fridge is all ready for new year goodies. ; )
All in all I can only say Thank You God for the loveliest of family. Happy new year.
Let me work backward because as usual I prefer to write as I feel and obviously the latest happenings are freshest on my mind.
The family spend Christmas in Angkor Wat and I will blog in detail about the trip All I want to say here is that it was GOOD. Daddy got to be a little bit further from office and gave him a little bit more time with the family. Ad was good enough to be willing to go with the family in the expense of his Christmas play at church. He was sporting and played his role well as big brother (when mum and dad has to leave them alone at Angkor Thom) and he managed to wake up and had breakfast with all of us everyday. Both he and Ed gave the family their body and soul! Ed managed to drag himself from IMU and notes. He didn't speak like a doctor-to-be for the 4 days though I suspect his siblings' threat might have something to do with it!. Au had a deserving holidays after having butterflies in the stomach for SPM.As for mum, I am just happy and thankful the family is together.
The next day after we touch down at KL, I had a call. Apparently second brother fell from a stool and broke his hip. He was wheeled in on 27 Dec for a three hour operation. Well, he came out good and now it is the family's turn to survive his grumbling and complains. ; ). I am amazed at his character but I certainly can't go too near to him for too long. My heart goes out to his youngest kid who has to bear most of the brunt. God please take care of him(the son) It is not easy and he needs all the help he can get.
The year has many happenings and the biggest change has been my retirement.It is a big change to me and my new year resolution is to forget what has happened the last one and a half years .I plan to start my next phrase of life and make as fulfilling as possible. For a starter, December is good good good as a retiree.No preparation and most importantly tension over the next year. It has never been the work but the unnecessary energy drainer like politics and prejudices. It was relaxing and I had never had a better December.I am overwhelmed and grateful.
After the hospital bit, the family was rounded up for spring cleaning.As usual Ad was dragged in, Ed wanted to help but the IMU bug crawled up to him very fast after touch down not forgetting his busy social life. All left was Daddy and Au. Dad has always been a good husband and I thank God for that. He lead, he moved and he heaved.Sometimes I pushed a little but I can't ask for more. Thank you, Darling.Audrey has been a little darling too the last few years. She is always there at the kitchen and every where when things need to be done. She pampered me and rule me with a glare when I look tired.(Of course he had Ed's support to scold me too when the latter knows of it later) The children are all darlings and sweetheart's.Maybe different flavour but nevertheless sweethearts.The curtains are all done, the books packed and recycled, the storeroom cleaned and fridge is all ready for new year goodies. ; )
All in all I can only say Thank You God for the loveliest of family. Happy new year.
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