Since the last time I blog, so many things have gone through my head and this time I really don't know where to start to put them in words. I really don't know.
I thought of my mother whom I lost 17 years ago and the things we went through together. Did I love her enough? I wish I could have don't more for her but I know I can't due to my own shortcomings and my immediate family. Sadly also, I know deep down why it happened.
I thought of my one and only sister. She whom I love and feel close to.How she love me and love my children. It touches deep and that is where I am grateful to my parents and siblings for teaching me to love deeply and passionately. Later I will decide if it went over the limit to spoiling. For now, I just love and care as I feel it.
My eldest son as he goes through his patch of life.Where he stand or rather where all of us stand.Right or wrong, should or shouldn't. How, why.
Myself...... I have turn to telling instead of asking.
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Thursday, October 9, 2008
To my 3 kids
In the course of the conversation during the Raya's meet, we teased LP when we found out that she bought the house next door. We wanted to know if it is in anticipation of an addition to the family (we were referring to a daughter-in-law and not a new baby! Don't think any of us are still in that category!)
It brought me to think about the next phase of the family.The arrival of an in law not that it is any time soon but the reality is there.How will she or he take to the family and what precautions do we need to be aware of to welcome him or her. Gosh it sound like some physics experiment but actually it is because my command of English is not good enough to make it sounds right.
Our family is a very closely knitted one. As a parent, one can be proud to see the kids being so close to their siblings loving caring teasing hugging and missing each other sincerely in time of absence.To date, they are still sharing most of their thoughts and problems with us. But how does the new addition take to these?
As parents, we have to learnt to let go and let the union be one. At a church wedding a pastor once said it is a union of a man and a woman and the couple need to leave the parents. I wasn't sure what he meant by 'leave' but I have my own interpretation. To 'leave ' is to mean that the parents must respect and understand that the couple need to live their own life with minimum interference. They have the right to make their own decisions. We need to take a step back. But 'leave' doesn't mean to be detached from them. We still have a role to play when advice is asked for.Words of caution could be given when needed.In other words stay at a distance.SF mentioned of a divorce when the husband is too attached to the mother and it didn't go down well with the wife. On the tone, I guess I need to caution against too much hugging and kissing!As a parent, if they ever need to choose, I would rather they choose their spouse than me. That is why I always felt that the most important thing in the choice of a life partner is that there is a strong love between them and not skin colour, religion or physical beauty.
I need to declare that these are my personal thoughts and reflections. I stand corrected in future but until such time, the kids are welcomed to remind me of this post. Love from mummy.
It brought me to think about the next phase of the family.The arrival of an in law not that it is any time soon but the reality is there.How will she or he take to the family and what precautions do we need to be aware of to welcome him or her. Gosh it sound like some physics experiment but actually it is because my command of English is not good enough to make it sounds right.
Our family is a very closely knitted one. As a parent, one can be proud to see the kids being so close to their siblings loving caring teasing hugging and missing each other sincerely in time of absence.To date, they are still sharing most of their thoughts and problems with us. But how does the new addition take to these?
As parents, we have to learnt to let go and let the union be one. At a church wedding a pastor once said it is a union of a man and a woman and the couple need to leave the parents. I wasn't sure what he meant by 'leave' but I have my own interpretation. To 'leave ' is to mean that the parents must respect and understand that the couple need to live their own life with minimum interference. They have the right to make their own decisions. We need to take a step back. But 'leave' doesn't mean to be detached from them. We still have a role to play when advice is asked for.Words of caution could be given when needed.In other words stay at a distance.SF mentioned of a divorce when the husband is too attached to the mother and it didn't go down well with the wife. On the tone, I guess I need to caution against too much hugging and kissing!As a parent, if they ever need to choose, I would rather they choose their spouse than me. That is why I always felt that the most important thing in the choice of a life partner is that there is a strong love between them and not skin colour, religion or physical beauty.
I need to declare that these are my personal thoughts and reflections. I stand corrected in future but until such time, the kids are welcomed to remind me of this post. Love from mummy.
Meeting Up
Two weeks of absence but I didn't forget about you. As usual I had been blogging in my head!!!
Raya week was a good week. It started with daddy away for his quarter meeting and since grandma wasn't around I had a good time with the kids; planning, cooking and just relaxing. Au and me followed daddy to Seremban and after waking up Ed, had breakfast with his friends and enjoyed a leisurely drive back to KL.Of course, the kids insist I was checking Ed's room after 1 month. Well I did look around and clean some things (which mother wouldn't)but I declare and insist I wasn't checking on him. Mummy's honour...... not that it mean anything to the kids!
During raya's first day, old friends (old old friends as in school mates!) meet up. Thank you to SF for arranging. Suppose to be tea potluck style. Ended with 2 contribution of egg tarts, 2 contributions of cakes plus bubur and rojak. That's what you get when nobody wanted to commit earlier their contributions. But it doesn't matter. we still had a good time and I hope the 2 hubbies didn't have much to complain to their wives.
It is always refreshing to meet up old friends. I enjoy the carefree talk and the exchange of news.Maybe after being in the working world so long, I miss genuine friends. (as I blogged before)Talk that has no trace of keeping up with the next one, not deciding if the topic of conversation is safe, if what you said will used against you etc. Yes, I have no regrets keeping the friends that I have and I hope to enlarge this circle of friends.
Thanks again SF for making the effort and thanks too to SF, LP, LS and KW for being friends.
Raya week was a good week. It started with daddy away for his quarter meeting and since grandma wasn't around I had a good time with the kids; planning, cooking and just relaxing. Au and me followed daddy to Seremban and after waking up Ed, had breakfast with his friends and enjoyed a leisurely drive back to KL.Of course, the kids insist I was checking Ed's room after 1 month. Well I did look around and clean some things (which mother wouldn't)but I declare and insist I wasn't checking on him. Mummy's honour...... not that it mean anything to the kids!
During raya's first day, old friends (old old friends as in school mates!) meet up. Thank you to SF for arranging. Suppose to be tea potluck style. Ended with 2 contribution of egg tarts, 2 contributions of cakes plus bubur and rojak. That's what you get when nobody wanted to commit earlier their contributions. But it doesn't matter. we still had a good time and I hope the 2 hubbies didn't have much to complain to their wives.
It is always refreshing to meet up old friends. I enjoy the carefree talk and the exchange of news.Maybe after being in the working world so long, I miss genuine friends. (as I blogged before)Talk that has no trace of keeping up with the next one, not deciding if the topic of conversation is safe, if what you said will used against you etc. Yes, I have no regrets keeping the friends that I have and I hope to enlarge this circle of friends.
Thanks again SF for making the effort and thanks too to SF, LP, LS and KW for being friends.
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