Thursday, November 27, 2008
being a blogger
4 blogs in a day. So it is not that I have stop blogging but just not got myself to sit down long enough to do it !!!
Old friends
Met up with P K HEMs the other day. YK bought lunch at Mongkok and tea too. And boy you should see the size of their glasses and cups or shall I say jugs and mugs when the drinks are served. We thought we can drown ourselves in it! Wish I had my camera with me. Thanks for the lovely lunch and sorry your car door broke.So embarrassing.
The chatting was truly nice. Good to know that they are enjoying the challenges of school. Waiting to welcome YK to the world of retirement. To MK and ST, carry on the torch and care for the kids.
As for myself, reminded myself not to be a 'yellow-faced -woman' (Cantonese version of a typical pea brain housewife) now that I am retired.Ha Ha Ha Friends, do let me know if you see signs of the colouring!
The chatting was truly nice. Good to know that they are enjoying the challenges of school. Waiting to welcome YK to the world of retirement. To MK and ST, carry on the torch and care for the kids.
As for myself, reminded myself not to be a 'yellow-faced -woman' (Cantonese version of a typical pea brain housewife) now that I am retired.Ha Ha Ha Friends, do let me know if you see signs of the colouring!
my birthday
yeah! I am one year older 2 weeks ago. Had a good them, Enjoyed seeing the kids growing up and saying thanks for a wonderful family, good health peace. Do read about my son's blog about it here http://edydejun.blogspot.com/2008/11/happy-birthday-mummy.html
who bought this truck of cow dung?
Title is a book from a Buddhist monk. Ajahn Brahm. Enjoyed the contents thoroughly.He talks about
- to get out of depression, to stop oneself from being arrogant or just a good thought, remember 'this too will pass' How true when one is happy and how important to remember when one is sad.
-to be a counsellor , remember you are supposed to be a dustbin collecting all kinds of thoughts and comments not forgetting feelings, but more important a dustbin with a hole at the bottom because you can't shoulder every body's burden.Very true for those of us who are good listeners
-in many situations in life; when there is nothing we can go, just do nothing. This is equivalent to the Christians who tell you to leave things in the hands of God. That is why I always believe the true religion always teaches the same things but they put it in different ways.So don't condemn the next religion and always remember that there is a BIG difference between what God say and what religious leaders say.
-3 most important questions and ans
1. when is the most important time
answer is now. (Remember the poem about yesterday being a dream and tomorrow being only a vision?)
2. who is the most important person?
the person you are with (and this could mean yourself when you are alone)
3. most important thing to do?
...is to care. (And I guess this mean to love and not to hurt.)
Good read, highly recommended. And read with an open mind if you are not a Buddhist.
- to get out of depression, to stop oneself from being arrogant or just a good thought, remember 'this too will pass' How true when one is happy and how important to remember when one is sad.
-to be a counsellor , remember you are supposed to be a dustbin collecting all kinds of thoughts and comments not forgetting feelings, but more important a dustbin with a hole at the bottom because you can't shoulder every body's burden.Very true for those of us who are good listeners
-in many situations in life; when there is nothing we can go, just do nothing. This is equivalent to the Christians who tell you to leave things in the hands of God. That is why I always believe the true religion always teaches the same things but they put it in different ways.So don't condemn the next religion and always remember that there is a BIG difference between what God say and what religious leaders say.
-3 most important questions and ans
1. when is the most important time
answer is now. (Remember the poem about yesterday being a dream and tomorrow being only a vision?)
2. who is the most important person?
the person you are with (and this could mean yourself when you are alone)
3. most important thing to do?
...is to care. (And I guess this mean to love and not to hurt.)
Good read, highly recommended. And read with an open mind if you are not a Buddhist.
comments from readers
2 comments from my very very limited readers.
1. have you stop blogging
ans. No just that so many things and one thing always lead to another and there is no end. conclusion....retirement Not equal more time . Just time for different things
2. Your blog very long. very lazy to read.
ans. So you know mothers are long winded in spoken and written form. Ha Ha Ha . so promise to make things shorter.
1. have you stop blogging
ans. No just that so many things and one thing always lead to another and there is no end. conclusion....retirement Not equal more time . Just time for different things
2. Your blog very long. very lazy to read.
ans. So you know mothers are long winded in spoken and written form. Ha Ha Ha . so promise to make things shorter.
Thursday, October 30, 2008
Question
Since the last time I blog, so many things have gone through my head and this time I really don't know where to start to put them in words. I really don't know.
I thought of my mother whom I lost 17 years ago and the things we went through together. Did I love her enough? I wish I could have don't more for her but I know I can't due to my own shortcomings and my immediate family. Sadly also, I know deep down why it happened.
I thought of my one and only sister. She whom I love and feel close to.How she love me and love my children. It touches deep and that is where I am grateful to my parents and siblings for teaching me to love deeply and passionately. Later I will decide if it went over the limit to spoiling. For now, I just love and care as I feel it.
My eldest son as he goes through his patch of life.Where he stand or rather where all of us stand.Right or wrong, should or shouldn't. How, why.
Myself...... I have turn to telling instead of asking.
I thought of my mother whom I lost 17 years ago and the things we went through together. Did I love her enough? I wish I could have don't more for her but I know I can't due to my own shortcomings and my immediate family. Sadly also, I know deep down why it happened.
I thought of my one and only sister. She whom I love and feel close to.How she love me and love my children. It touches deep and that is where I am grateful to my parents and siblings for teaching me to love deeply and passionately. Later I will decide if it went over the limit to spoiling. For now, I just love and care as I feel it.
My eldest son as he goes through his patch of life.Where he stand or rather where all of us stand.Right or wrong, should or shouldn't. How, why.
Myself...... I have turn to telling instead of asking.
Thursday, October 9, 2008
To my 3 kids
In the course of the conversation during the Raya's meet, we teased LP when we found out that she bought the house next door. We wanted to know if it is in anticipation of an addition to the family (we were referring to a daughter-in-law and not a new baby! Don't think any of us are still in that category!)
It brought me to think about the next phase of the family.The arrival of an in law not that it is any time soon but the reality is there.How will she or he take to the family and what precautions do we need to be aware of to welcome him or her. Gosh it sound like some physics experiment but actually it is because my command of English is not good enough to make it sounds right.
Our family is a very closely knitted one. As a parent, one can be proud to see the kids being so close to their siblings loving caring teasing hugging and missing each other sincerely in time of absence.To date, they are still sharing most of their thoughts and problems with us. But how does the new addition take to these?
As parents, we have to learnt to let go and let the union be one. At a church wedding a pastor once said it is a union of a man and a woman and the couple need to leave the parents. I wasn't sure what he meant by 'leave' but I have my own interpretation. To 'leave ' is to mean that the parents must respect and understand that the couple need to live their own life with minimum interference. They have the right to make their own decisions. We need to take a step back. But 'leave' doesn't mean to be detached from them. We still have a role to play when advice is asked for.Words of caution could be given when needed.In other words stay at a distance.SF mentioned of a divorce when the husband is too attached to the mother and it didn't go down well with the wife. On the tone, I guess I need to caution against too much hugging and kissing!As a parent, if they ever need to choose, I would rather they choose their spouse than me. That is why I always felt that the most important thing in the choice of a life partner is that there is a strong love between them and not skin colour, religion or physical beauty.
I need to declare that these are my personal thoughts and reflections. I stand corrected in future but until such time, the kids are welcomed to remind me of this post. Love from mummy.
It brought me to think about the next phase of the family.The arrival of an in law not that it is any time soon but the reality is there.How will she or he take to the family and what precautions do we need to be aware of to welcome him or her. Gosh it sound like some physics experiment but actually it is because my command of English is not good enough to make it sounds right.
Our family is a very closely knitted one. As a parent, one can be proud to see the kids being so close to their siblings loving caring teasing hugging and missing each other sincerely in time of absence.To date, they are still sharing most of their thoughts and problems with us. But how does the new addition take to these?
As parents, we have to learnt to let go and let the union be one. At a church wedding a pastor once said it is a union of a man and a woman and the couple need to leave the parents. I wasn't sure what he meant by 'leave' but I have my own interpretation. To 'leave ' is to mean that the parents must respect and understand that the couple need to live their own life with minimum interference. They have the right to make their own decisions. We need to take a step back. But 'leave' doesn't mean to be detached from them. We still have a role to play when advice is asked for.Words of caution could be given when needed.In other words stay at a distance.SF mentioned of a divorce when the husband is too attached to the mother and it didn't go down well with the wife. On the tone, I guess I need to caution against too much hugging and kissing!As a parent, if they ever need to choose, I would rather they choose their spouse than me. That is why I always felt that the most important thing in the choice of a life partner is that there is a strong love between them and not skin colour, religion or physical beauty.
I need to declare that these are my personal thoughts and reflections. I stand corrected in future but until such time, the kids are welcomed to remind me of this post. Love from mummy.
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